hello
@Credu4me
and welcome to TP where you'll find lots of support and sympathy
it's so tough coming to terms with the realisation that your husband's care needs are such that a move to a care home is in his best interests
you certainly have not abandoned him and will continue to be actively involved in his life - the team of carers in the home can look to his personal care and such but no-one else can be his loving wife
it often is advised not to visit for a few days, that doesn't mean you can't keep in contact with the home so phone when you want to - and if you feel you very much want to see how your husband is, maybe visit but don't let him see you
depending on why the advice was given, have a rest yourelf and visit when you feel the time is right - maybe take your husband a treat and have an idea of when and how you will leave, have a distraction organised, maybe a meal, as in the early days your husband may wonder why he's not leaving with you
it will take time to settle into a routine, so be gentle with yourself
and keep posting as it helps to share with folk who understand