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Hullo and welcome, missdoherty99.Hello everyone,
I'm here because my grandfather has vascular dementia, I find it hard to talk about with people because they don't understand unless they've been through it themselves. I find myself constantly grieving and I just want to know I'm not alone and see if anyone understands me.
Thank you for that. I like the idea of the postcards, I will give that a try! It’s that fear that he will think I’ve abandoned him that scares me. I know I must be patient.Hi @Kate12 and welcome to Talking Point
I wouldnt try and explain or reason with your dad as he will no longer be able to understand, so try and come up with an explanation that he would understand and accept - perhaps your car has broken down and is in the garage. Once people with dementia reach this stage you have to use Therapeutic Untruths (AKA love lies).
When I wasnt able to visit mum I used to send picture postcards with a simple message on them so that mum did not think I had abandoned her. Give your dad time - it takes a good couple of months for them to settle