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Meetoo

New member
May 23, 2021
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Hello, I have joined after a chat with a kind Admiral Nurse. Finding it difficult to manage my 93year old husband’s challenging behaviour. Confirmed diagnosis unavailable without his consent. Looking forward to exploring the forums and learning more.
 

canary

Registered User
Feb 25, 2014
15,178
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South coast
Hello @Meetoo and welcome to Dementia Talking Point
Im afraid it is quite common to have difficulty persuading people with dementia to go for diagnosis. Usually you have to use stealth, love lies and reverse psychology!
Yes, do have a mooch around the forums and feel free to join in the conversations. Do remember, though that not everything that you read will happen to you.
If you want to ask advice about your husbands behaviour, then it is probably best to start a new thread so that more people will see it
 

RachelMC123

New member
May 25, 2021
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Hi,
I am new to this and am living with my Mum who has decreased mental capacity and needs 24 hr care. She is in denial and I just need to talk to someone who can support me as this is really hard and new
 

Grannie G

Volunteer Moderator
Apr 3, 2006
73,412
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Kent
Hello @RachelMC123

I`m pleased you`ve found this Forum. Caring for someone with dementia can be so lonely.

Please start your own Thread in the forum I care for a person with dementia. It is here;


This means all the replies and support I`m sure you will get will all be in one place.
 

canary

Registered User
Feb 25, 2014
15,178
0
South coast
Ah, Granny G beat me too it @RachelMC123
If you post in the section she suggests, more people will see it and if you explain the problems you are having, you will get lots of replies.

PS, welcome from me too
xx
 

Annette. M

New member
Jun 11, 2021
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HI, my name is Annette. My dad was diagnosed with mixed dementia in 2015. He is starting to forget what day it is now.
He has other health problems and I do his shopping and collect his pension. I have power of attorney so this is no problem, but he called me today as he forgot I gave him his money on Tuesday. He virtually accused me of stealing his money.
How do I deal with this? How do I carry on knowing he doesn't trust me?
 

lemonbalm

Registered User
May 21, 2018
1,473
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Hello @Annette. M

It’s the dementia that doesn’t trust you, not your Dad. You are obviously doing a very good job of looking after him. I used to find it best to say something to my mum along the lines of “Oh, goodness, I am such an idiot. It’s all my fault, I forgot . I’ll do it tomorrow” or something similar. Hopefully next time you see your Dad he will have forgotten that he accused you of anything. It’s very hard to deal with. The following link might be useful. Others will be along with their advice, so keep checking in.


You may want to start your own thread in the following forum to receive more replies. Lots of us out here to help you along, so don’t feel lonely.