Hello, I have joined after a chat with a kind Admiral Nurse. Finding it difficult to manage my 93year old husband’s challenging behaviour. Confirmed diagnosis unavailable without his consent. Looking forward to exploring the forums and learning more.
Hello @Meetoo and welcome to Dementia Talking Point
Im afraid it is quite common to have difficulty persuading people with dementia to go for diagnosis. Usually you have to use stealth, love lies and reverse psychology!
Yes, do have a mooch around the forums and feel free to join in the conversations. Do remember, though that not everything that you read will happen to you.
If you want to ask advice about your husbands behaviour, then it is probably best to start a new thread so that more people will see it
I am new to this and am living with my Mum who has decreased mental capacity and needs 24 hr care. She is in denial and I just need to talk to someone who can support me as this is really hard and new
HI, my name is Annette. My dad was diagnosed with mixed dementia in 2015. He is starting to forget what day it is now.
He has other health problems and I do his shopping and collect his pension. I have power of attorney so this is no problem, but he called me today as he forgot I gave him his money on Tuesday. He virtually accused me of stealing his money.
How do I deal with this? How do I carry on knowing he doesn't trust me?
It’s the dementia that doesn’t trust you, not your Dad. You are obviously doing a very good job of looking after him. I used to find it best to say something to my mum along the lines of “Oh, goodness, I am such an idiot. It’s all my fault, I forgot . I’ll do it tomorrow” or something similar. Hopefully next time you see your Dad he will have forgotten that he accused you of anything. It’s very hard to deal with. The following link might be useful. Others will be along with their advice, so keep checking in.