1. Expert Q&A: Benefits - Weds 23 October, 3-4pm

    Our next expert Q&A will be on the topic of benefits. It will be hosted by Lauren from our Knowledge Services team. She'll be answering your questions on Wednesday 23 October between 3-4pm.

    You can either post your question >here< or email them to us at talkingpoint@alzheimers.org.uk and we'll be happy to ask them on your behalf.

  1. Maggie42

    Maggie42 Registered User

    Mar 7, 2011
    120
    East Midlands
    Hi,
    My husband is in a nursing home with mixed dementia. I try and keep busy during the week with visits, vol. work, lunches etc, but I dread weekends when others are busy doing family things and now we (I am sure others feel the same way) have 3 days to cope with over the Bank Holiday and it's cold weather.....
    Sorry for moaning but just wanted to share the feeling and send a big hug to others in the same situation.
    Take care.
    Maggie
     
  2. Chuggalug

    Chuggalug Registered User

    Mar 24, 2014
    8,007
    Norfolk
    Maggie, come and join the Positives Thread. You'll love it there. I know you'll be made welcome :) xxxxx
     
  3. Grey Lad

    Grey Lad Registered User

    Sep 12, 2014
    5,737
    North East Lincs
    Come on Maggie we need you on the Positive Thread.
     
  4. WIFE

    WIFE Registered User

    May 23, 2014
    857
    WEST SUSSEX
    Maggie - I so well know what you mean about weekends and Bank Holidays especially when everyone around is having family get-togethers and barbeques. So for this Bank Holiday I have bought myself one of those disposable barbeques and intend to "do" my kebabs, play some cheerful music and drink a few glasses of wine on the terrace under a large umbrella if it pours with rain! You just have to keep going somehow. Even visiting my husband in the NH broke up the day into manageable chunks but now it seems to "stretch.......". Will be thinking of you WIFE
     
  5. Beate

    Beate Registered User

    May 21, 2014
    11,717
    Female
    London
    I used to love bank holidays as they were another day off work. Now they are just a day without day centre and sitters, plus everywhere is so full with day trippers that the day is best spent home.
     
  6. Chuggalug

    Chuggalug Registered User

    Mar 24, 2014
    8,007
    Norfolk
    Maggie; there must be something you love to do. A hobby. Something that lifts your spirits. For me, it's music. Whatever yours is, just do it. Get some fresh air. Go for a walk. Whatever, just don't sit and upset yourself. Life is for living as often as you can.

    Sometimes, you have to force yourself to move. That, I know all too well. We're all here for you and will help you carry your pain in any way that we can. Cry when you must, but then stop and do something that gives you the most joy.

    And come here and talk with us :) xxxxxx
     
  7. Maggie42

    Maggie42 Registered User

    Mar 7, 2011
    120
    East Midlands
    Hi,
    Thanks for all your replies, it is comforting to know there are people you can reach out to and yes I will look at the Positives thread. I hope those who feel the same way as me find something to brighten their weekend, I've ended up watching too much TV, indulged in some retail therapy and done some gardening....
    Regards
    Maggie
     
  8. esmeralda

    esmeralda Registered User

    Nov 27, 2014
    3,072
    Devon
    Hi Maggie, it can be hard to cope with weekends, especially ones with bank holidays tacked on. There are a lot of people finding them difficult I think. Have you heard of the University of the 3rd Age? Don't know if there is one near you but they do all sorts of activities, all run by members. You have to be retired or partially retired. Membership fees are very reasonable, about £12 - £15 a year. You don't have to be academic or have a degree or anything. The local one here have a group that arrange things for the weekends for people who would otherwise be on their own..
    Local Carer's groups might also have something on. I hope you can find something hat helps. Es
    xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
     
  9. Maggie42

    Maggie42 Registered User

    Mar 7, 2011
    120
    East Midlands
    Thanks Esmeralda I will check that out.
    :)
     
  10. truth24

    truth24 Registered User

    Oct 13, 2013
    5,726
    North Somerset
    Hi Maggi

    Have the same problem here since I have now decided to make only week day visits as holiday traffic on M5 building up now the season has arrived and don't like getting stuck in jams when all I am wanting to do is to see my beloved. Must admit, I am going out with a a friend today, weather permitting, but normally spend Sundays on my own. Saturdays are OK as catch up with shopping, housework, etc, but Sundays can seem very lonely. Usually attend morning Church service but then usually spend time in garden if possible, or doing paperwork, reading paper, etc. Don't know what to suggest as I think many of us are in the same boat and I remember my mother saying the same thing after my father died, so it's an age old problem. Sorry I can't help but just wanted to say I know how you feel.:(
     
  11. lin1

    lin1 Registered User

    Jan 14, 2010
    9,322
    Female
    East Kent
  12. Maggie42

    Maggie42 Registered User

    Mar 7, 2011
    120
    East Midlands
    Hi all,
    Thanks Lin a couple of courses look interesting and I am finishing one on Dementia this week so quite timely.
    Truth: Like you I am avoiding the motorways this w/e as have a 50 min trip each way to visit my HB.
    Looks like there is no avoiding trying to set up my new office chair as it is far too wet for gardening, at least it doesn't involve using power tools. LOL
    Take care one and all.
    Mags
     
  13. patsy56

    patsy56 Registered User

    Jan 14, 2015
    840
    Fife Scotland
    I need to check out this positives thread..............toodles off to find
     

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