Tomorrow would have been my Mum and Dads 55 wedding anniversary. Since he died of always bought Mum some flowers on Dad's behalf - yellow roses just like he always bought her every year. But in the past she has been aware of the date both leading up to and on the day. This year she really has no idea. Should I still mention it or might it cause her more pain than anything else. She would feel bad to think she hasn't realised the date etc. I'm not sure what to do, this year she has missed a few birthdays etc including my son's 18th which would have devastated her had she realised. What do others do. She has asked me to get gifts where I know she normally would have done, but this is a bit different as dad isn't here, and I feel I'd just refresh her pain buying her flowers for him. All ideas welcome thanks.