The dredded hospital appointment was yesterday,I have been too upset until now to speak about it. Mum has vascular dementia,the doctor has recommended that she goes into resedential care because every one agrees that if Mum went home she would soon start drinking... Mum is absolutley spitting mad she is telling everyone I am evil and making it all up. She thinks the doctor is an idiot and there is nothing wrong with her. She is insisting she wants to go home. The doctor said she can not be made to go in a home but if I can persuade her it would be good. Today I have spent all day ringing local homes only to be told they have waiting lists or they do not take people with dementia. Today i went to see mum and she was telling my aunt about her evil nasty daughter (me) I spent an hour telling her I would find somewhere nice where she could live and explaining she is not well and needs a little extra care. She listened and seemed to understand then asked if she will be home by the end of the week. The doctor has agreed to keep her at the hospital for a week while I try to get things sorted out. How will I manage all of this in a week. Also will I still be able to post on this site now we know she has VD and not AZ . Also SW told me the doctor is not being completly honest he is the one that should be telling her she can not go home.