Hi Friends
We visited another few homes over the weekend and then last night found the right place for my Dad. You were all so right we had a good feeling about the place the moment that we arrived, the accomodation is pleasant in the main resident areas with proper tablecloths and napkins in the dining room, they have separate lounges some bright some darker with the biggest plasma screen I have ever seen in the tv lounge. The bedrooms are comfortable and very clean and Dads room will be decorated in what ever colour we ask for before he goes. More importantly they organise regular outings and mum is welcome to go with them, monthly care assesments which we are involved in and a relatives committee who meet monthly to discuss any issues.
We feel much happier now and the best thing is that the home is only 5 minutes away from my mums flat. Obviously it will still be a trying time for us when he moves permanently but we feel confident that we have found the best placement that we could. The residents were friendly with us last night and there was quite alot of conversation going on around us they spent more time talking about Dads likes and dislikes than they did talking about his illness and they are confident that they can give him the care and stimulation that he needs.
Mum & I have also learned to smile at some ot Dads antics and it really helps, someone on another thread was talking about the need to sometimes laugh at things together and this is fine it really helps but it is very true that it would be awful if someone else who does not live with this wicked illness was to laugh.
This time last week I would not have believed that we would be at the stage that we are now or that I would be accepting of it, thanks everyone for your support
We visited another few homes over the weekend and then last night found the right place for my Dad. You were all so right we had a good feeling about the place the moment that we arrived, the accomodation is pleasant in the main resident areas with proper tablecloths and napkins in the dining room, they have separate lounges some bright some darker with the biggest plasma screen I have ever seen in the tv lounge. The bedrooms are comfortable and very clean and Dads room will be decorated in what ever colour we ask for before he goes. More importantly they organise regular outings and mum is welcome to go with them, monthly care assesments which we are involved in and a relatives committee who meet monthly to discuss any issues.
We feel much happier now and the best thing is that the home is only 5 minutes away from my mums flat. Obviously it will still be a trying time for us when he moves permanently but we feel confident that we have found the best placement that we could. The residents were friendly with us last night and there was quite alot of conversation going on around us they spent more time talking about Dads likes and dislikes than they did talking about his illness and they are confident that they can give him the care and stimulation that he needs.
Mum & I have also learned to smile at some ot Dads antics and it really helps, someone on another thread was talking about the need to sometimes laugh at things together and this is fine it really helps but it is very true that it would be awful if someone else who does not live with this wicked illness was to laugh.
This time last week I would not have believed that we would be at the stage that we are now or that I would be accepting of it, thanks everyone for your support