When I met my husband 25 years ago, we fell in love. I was 35/36. I did not ask his age, he was my swimming teacher. After several weeks, his mother came with us for a Sunday lunch to a pub, when Ron got up to get our drink's, she said, you know he is 23 years older than you. She did not like it. Had many a battle with her. But we stayed,together Ron and I.
And we are married. Ron's mum has sinced passed away.
Did I ever think that we would be in the position we are in today - NO
Would it have changed my acceptance of Ron, knowing what the furure held - NO.
I am sick of family, friends etc, telling me how brave I am, how hard I work, how tired I must be. Do not get me wrong, I love them all, BUT.
I know everyone means well, but none of them ask's to talk to Ron, he is still here, he might be a bit confused, but for god's sake ask him how he feels, keep him in the loop. At Christmas, Ron was with us all in the lounge, after lunch, but no one struck up a conversation with him, I had to keep trying to include him. Do you not all feel that it becomes," Taboo", lets not mention IT, lets pretend IT is not there. Because if we do not mention IT, WE will not be embarrassed, because WE do not know how to respond, so do not put us in this situation.
We are embarrassed, "THEY", are lost for word's.
Why ? are people scared, we are all going to die, for some of us it will be a gentle step into the night, for others a fight. Let us who are like me, proud and glad we met the person we did, shout it from the rooftops.
I shall after Ron leaves me, have a tattoo, across my BUM, yes, saying I am a human being, I was once like you, and one day you will maybe, be like me. So, be careful how you wipe it.
Because, if not, I will send a big bird from the sky, to Cr-p all over you.
To the ones, they know who they are on this site - I thank you all. You have been wonderful
Barb XX
And we are married. Ron's mum has sinced passed away.
Did I ever think that we would be in the position we are in today - NO
Would it have changed my acceptance of Ron, knowing what the furure held - NO.
I am sick of family, friends etc, telling me how brave I am, how hard I work, how tired I must be. Do not get me wrong, I love them all, BUT.
I know everyone means well, but none of them ask's to talk to Ron, he is still here, he might be a bit confused, but for god's sake ask him how he feels, keep him in the loop. At Christmas, Ron was with us all in the lounge, after lunch, but no one struck up a conversation with him, I had to keep trying to include him. Do you not all feel that it becomes," Taboo", lets not mention IT, lets pretend IT is not there. Because if we do not mention IT, WE will not be embarrassed, because WE do not know how to respond, so do not put us in this situation.
We are embarrassed, "THEY", are lost for word's.
Why ? are people scared, we are all going to die, for some of us it will be a gentle step into the night, for others a fight. Let us who are like me, proud and glad we met the person we did, shout it from the rooftops.
I shall after Ron leaves me, have a tattoo, across my BUM, yes, saying I am a human being, I was once like you, and one day you will maybe, be like me. So, be careful how you wipe it.
Because, if not, I will send a big bird from the sky, to Cr-p all over you.
To the ones, they know who they are on this site - I thank you all. You have been wonderful
Barb XX