Hi,
We are eloping to get married- just me, my fiance, 3 kids and 2 witnesses. We have not told Ian's mum as she would want to be there and would fret about what to wear etc etc. One of the reasons we are eloping is to avoid taking her out of her comfort zone which is very small and putting her into a position that is strange and new with lots of people she does not know. While we were away last she let in 2 strangers to her flat (things are now missing) but she has no recollection of them- building auxillary saw her taking them into flat that is how we know! she got in a right mess about paying a cheque into her bank (sorted out by her lovely cleaner after 2 hours of calls to her from abroad).mum has care going in am and pm but she never seems to know what has happened between or even some days if the care workers have been in at all without getting the care book out. She very rarely manages to get herself sorted in the day to go out unless the proverbial rocket is used! She does live relatively independently but in order that we don't have a repeat of the last holiday we were wondering about respite care- perhaps selling it to her as a holiday break? Mum has a daughter who lives away, not that far who comes down to visit on average 3 times a year. She does not return mums calls- mum phones and leaves messages and and gets a reply after about 6 messages have been left. My fiance works away during the week in Cheshire and so the first port of call if there is a problem and she cannot get hold of Ian is me.We have an 8 month old,a 10 and a 15 year old so I am busy too. Please advise as to what we should do?
Julie
We are eloping to get married- just me, my fiance, 3 kids and 2 witnesses. We have not told Ian's mum as she would want to be there and would fret about what to wear etc etc. One of the reasons we are eloping is to avoid taking her out of her comfort zone which is very small and putting her into a position that is strange and new with lots of people she does not know. While we were away last she let in 2 strangers to her flat (things are now missing) but she has no recollection of them- building auxillary saw her taking them into flat that is how we know! she got in a right mess about paying a cheque into her bank (sorted out by her lovely cleaner after 2 hours of calls to her from abroad).mum has care going in am and pm but she never seems to know what has happened between or even some days if the care workers have been in at all without getting the care book out. She very rarely manages to get herself sorted in the day to go out unless the proverbial rocket is used! She does live relatively independently but in order that we don't have a repeat of the last holiday we were wondering about respite care- perhaps selling it to her as a holiday break? Mum has a daughter who lives away, not that far who comes down to visit on average 3 times a year. She does not return mums calls- mum phones and leaves messages and and gets a reply after about 6 messages have been left. My fiance works away during the week in Cheshire and so the first port of call if there is a problem and she cannot get hold of Ian is me.We have an 8 month old,a 10 and a 15 year old so I am busy too. Please advise as to what we should do?
Julie