Today was the first time the carer that I found a couple of weeks ago took my Dad out to a day centre for a couple of hours. Mum and I have been wrecks. Would he be upset, would he be angry, would he be even more confused? Had we done the right thing by him? (Leaving aside for the moment that with this condition there is no "right thing"!) Would it be better just to leave well alone? Are we just making matters worse?
All I can do is say to myself, and to all the other carers on this forum, that we are all doing our best. All the time. Mum and I are doing what we are doing because we love my dad. We may not always get it right but if we make a mistake we do it out of love.
It would appear that my Dad was ok with/after the visit but very grumpy tonight because my Mum has had some jobs done around the house which Cost Money. She is doing her best. We are all doing our best. The tragedy is that our loved ones can no longer see that we are doing our best because they are trapped in their own cycles of anxiety and fear.
Peaceful evening to everyone out there.
Lesley xx
All I can do is say to myself, and to all the other carers on this forum, that we are all doing our best. All the time. Mum and I are doing what we are doing because we love my dad. We may not always get it right but if we make a mistake we do it out of love.
It would appear that my Dad was ok with/after the visit but very grumpy tonight because my Mum has had some jobs done around the house which Cost Money. She is doing her best. We are all doing our best. The tragedy is that our loved ones can no longer see that we are doing our best because they are trapped in their own cycles of anxiety and fear.
Peaceful evening to everyone out there.
Lesley xx