Hi there,
I've joined as we're worried about my mum and dad. She's 85 and has "dementia" of which sort we're not clear because she won't admit it. My dad (87) is trying to care for her, we can see that he needs help and he can see that (finally) but he's somehow not able to say no to her.
She's recently insisting on going to the pub every night and my father can't cope, he's exhausted. She's also becoming more abusive towards my father. Before she'd say that she couldn't stand him and just wanted to separate (but also showed that she was completely dependent on him, asking "where's Graham?" all the time when he wasn't there). The abuse is becoming more extreme, my 7 year old niece heard her say that she'd kill him. Dad also told me that when they were coming back from the pub, she was physically abusive to him (I think because she didn't want to go home just yet, even though it was 10:30pm).
This forum looks like a great resource, hopefully I (and my brother) can meet people who've been through the same situation and can learn something from them.
Looking forwards to meeting you all.
Thanks,
Anthony
I've joined as we're worried about my mum and dad. She's 85 and has "dementia" of which sort we're not clear because she won't admit it. My dad (87) is trying to care for her, we can see that he needs help and he can see that (finally) but he's somehow not able to say no to her.
She's recently insisting on going to the pub every night and my father can't cope, he's exhausted. She's also becoming more abusive towards my father. Before she'd say that she couldn't stand him and just wanted to separate (but also showed that she was completely dependent on him, asking "where's Graham?" all the time when he wasn't there). The abuse is becoming more extreme, my 7 year old niece heard her say that she'd kill him. Dad also told me that when they were coming back from the pub, she was physically abusive to him (I think because she didn't want to go home just yet, even though it was 10:30pm).
This forum looks like a great resource, hopefully I (and my brother) can meet people who've been through the same situation and can learn something from them.
Looking forwards to meeting you all.
Thanks,
Anthony