I don't usually post but have come to a point of not knowing how to deal with my husband not washing or changing his clothes, once about 3 weeks ago he agreed to have a wash with my help and changed his clothes but since then it's "if I want a wash I will have one, there's nothing wrong in not washing", usually shouting in my face - well there's no answer to that. He is not a person who will do what I suggest or tell him to do, he has always thought himself as "boss" in our house. My friend comes on a Tuesday and takes him the our local church for the short half hour service - and he goes with her no problem. Then another friend comes and takes him out for a couple of hours one afternoon, so at least I'm getting some ME time. When we go out together it gets rather stressful as he stops strangers in the street and starts talking to them, not about anything sensible either when I try to distract him it's as if he can't hear me and just keeps on talking. Somedays it's as if he never stops talking or complaining from morning to evening. Today he has "hovered" up 3 times and I've taken it off him 3 times when I couldn't stand it any longer Sorry if I've rambled on a bit So glad there is this site to "meet" other "sailors" in the same boat xx.