My mother has multi-infarct dementia and has been in a wonderful home since July 1st. My father passed away in June - a fact she is unable to take in. She keeps asking for him and telling me he 'will be coming soon now in his car- there must be a lot of traffic'. She has never really settled in the home depsite the best efforts of the staff. She constantly packs up all her things (clothes, pictures, photos ornaments) and waits by the door trying to get a taxi to go 'home' to her husband. When I phone to say I will visit say on Tuesday, she says ' Oh I don't know if I'll still be here on Tuesday '...Yesterday apparently she got into the home's hairdressing salon and phoned '999' teling the police she was being kept against her will. Luckily, they phoned the home who explained abut the dementia etc. I'm sure 100s of you must have witnessed this phenomenon - ie 'wanting to go home' - but it breaks my heart as it means she is not happy. Do any of you have any tips as to how to deal with it ? - either to make her (or me !) happier. Do people tend to settle down ? The thing is she has days when she is actually quite lucid and on these occassions she must think 'what on earth am I doing here ?'. I would appreciate any tips/thoughts ....