hello, This is my first time on this forum. my mum was diagnosed last year with Az. She is 83. in the last few months she has got alot worse. This moment in time, i feel like i am about to crack up. I cannot stop the constant calling asking me when she is going home. she has lived in her house for 40 years and the last 4 years by herself after I left home. it now has got to the point that she thinks she is somewhere else and is calling me all the time to ask me to take her home. Today it has been 18 calls on my mobile at work. The more i tell her she is at home, the more she doesnt understand me. When i ask her where she is, she says she is at home in london and i get her to explain the house, which she does and then in the next breath she says 'but when are we going home'. It is the same conversation everyday, over and over.
When i tell her that her memory problems are playing tricks on her or she must of had a 'bad dream' she accuses me of planning things behind her back and selling the house (I have not).
It has now come to a point where i dont answer my phone (and i hate having to do that). i spend most of the weekdays with her - staying with her at nightime for company and as soon as i go back to my flat for a break i get the constant calls. I feel so guilty, sometimes I am so horrible to her, i shout at her and i hate myself for it. I feel so depressed, guilty and i cry alot.
I cant find any local support groups. my friends are supportive but just dont understand and i feel like im always talking about the problems with my mum.
I have tried to change the subject about 'going home' but it never works, i just say that i will sort it out when i get home. I dont want to lie to her. can anyone offer any advise on what to say or do?
I feel very alone
Georgina
When i tell her that her memory problems are playing tricks on her or she must of had a 'bad dream' she accuses me of planning things behind her back and selling the house (I have not).
It has now come to a point where i dont answer my phone (and i hate having to do that). i spend most of the weekdays with her - staying with her at nightime for company and as soon as i go back to my flat for a break i get the constant calls. I feel so guilty, sometimes I am so horrible to her, i shout at her and i hate myself for it. I feel so depressed, guilty and i cry alot.
I cant find any local support groups. my friends are supportive but just dont understand and i feel like im always talking about the problems with my mum.
I have tried to change the subject about 'going home' but it never works, i just say that i will sort it out when i get home. I dont want to lie to her. can anyone offer any advise on what to say or do?
I feel very alone
Georgina