Oh Dolly - Drama Queen!!!!! I'm sorry that your children have become more distant as I recognise what that is like - ours also have become more distant and it really hurts.
(Hugs) xx
(Hugs) xx
My favourite fantasy is to go to the airport and catch the first easyjet flight to anywhere. It would have to be a one way ticket though!
With your kids they grow a little bit more independent each day. With dementia its in reverse.
Drama queen!!! Would she like to try it? Day in day out, constantly?? No! I didn't think so. Hurt & also outraged on your behalf.
Yes would be nice but we have responsibilities really
Thats my thought after 5 years since my wife,s diagnosis and a recent down turn in her condition.
Im new to this forum and the fact that Im even typing this is I suppose that Im looking for a little light in the dark tunnel of caring for AD.
At 82 I fear for my wifes care if I am not able to give the 24/7 she needs. She is 72 and a love but not my love of yesterdays. She hardly says a word and is losing control of bowel and bladder function becoming more like a 2 year old by the month.
A twice a day washing nappy, a wash down at each toilet visit as well as the home routine is taking some dealing with.
Help, yes Carol my wife manages to go day care 10am to 4pm Mondays and that give me house work time. I was offered and tried a 2 hour "Baby sitting" session but Carol found it stressing and it was stopped. I am able and drive so although it is like taking a child we still get out and for that Im thankful but it has its toilet difficulties
Carols two children a 50 year old business owner has totally run away since Carol stop giving him money, her 40 year old daughter a single mum with a 6 year old we see occasionally but have not seen since I paid £2500 for them and the son a 4 night holiday with Carol some weeks ago, Carol enjoyed the company of her kids and grand child but they don't seem to care or may be ther,e affaid. May be they will come and see her at Chistmas
Carols dad had AD and after his wife died was killed in a road accident
Carol and I have been married 24 year having both our previous parteners die due to illness.
Many year ago Carol and I talked about old age and promised that while we were able
we would look after each other at home for as long as possible. I always thought as 11 years her elder it might be the opposite to as it is.
We cant walk away can we?
Typing this passed a little time away but Id better get Carol her lunch. bye;
Harry
oh yes, would love to walk away, do a Reggie Perrin. By the way, what was the name of that programme? Everytime i mention doing an RP, I have to explain to anyone under 50. lol.
harder still when you can't financially. once my husband is in care, i lose the house, because I wont be able to keep it with the loss of income.