Walk out the door and keep on walking

Discussion in 'I have a partner with dementia' started by Jean1234, Nov 16, 2015.

  1. Jean1234

    Jean1234 Registered User

    Mar 19, 2015
    241
    Does anyone else ever feel like that? Walk out the door and keep on walking? It's such a roll a coaster. Why is every good feeling always smashed before you have time to enjoy it.
     
  2. Stresshead

    Stresshead Registered User

    Sep 13, 2014
    96
    I think all of us feel like that regularly !!

    My husband made the fatal mistake of saying that he thought dad was doing really well over the last few days.........well that jinxed it !! He has driven me mad today saying that he needs the toilet. He has limited mobility so I have to take him but every time we get there and I sit him down he says 'why have you brought me here I don't need the toilet'. Take him back to his seat and 20 mins later it starts again. When I try and check with him if he does really need to go i end up in a frustratingly difficult conversation where he then accuses me of stopping him from using the loo. So I take him but with the same results and so we start all over again.........grrrrrrrrrr !!!

    So if you feel like walking I'll come with you xx




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  3. patsy56

    patsy56 Registered User

    Jan 14, 2015
    840
    Fife Scotland
    oh yes ..............and put the keys through the letter box once you lock the door.
     
  4. Jean1234

    Jean1234 Registered User

    Mar 19, 2015
    241
    Sorry folks!

    Wouldn't really do it, but nice to dream. Just having a carer melt down, it's been a bad day.
    I like the keys through the letter box Patsy after locking the door! Made me laugh. That's what is so great about this site, it pulls you up from the brink. What would I do without you all?
     
  5. fizzie

    fizzie Registered User

    Jul 20, 2011
    2,740
    absolutely!! Even did it once - took the car and drove to a lovely quiet spot in the pitch black, sat there for half an hour and then worried sick for half an hour and went home lol so much for resolve!!!
     
  6. patsy56

    patsy56 Registered User

    Jan 14, 2015
    840
    Fife Scotland
    yes it's the you can't really leave can you, walk away. You feel responsible.......well I do
     
  7. Chuggalug

    Chuggalug Registered User

    Mar 24, 2014
    8,007
    Norfolk
    What an awful situation. Yes. I've felt that many, many times. Don't know how I managed not to, Jean. I really feel for you, and everyone going through this very hard time.
     
  8. Dustycat

    Dustycat Registered User

    Jul 14, 2014
    220
    North East
    Yes. I have. Even though my Dad is now in care I often feel like I could run away as it's still all consuming. People think once your relative is in care you are a free agent. Far from.... x
     
  9. jikkie

    jikkie Registered User

    Aug 23, 2015
    64
    oh yes, would love to walk away, do a Reggie Perrin. By the way, what was the name of that programme? Everytime i mention doing an RP, I have to explain to anyone under 50. lol.

    harder still when you can't financially. once my husband is in care, i lose the house, because I wont be able to keep it with the loss of income.
     
  10. AlsoConfused

    AlsoConfused Registered User

    Sep 17, 2010
    1,958
    By the way, what was the name of that programme? Everytime i mention doing an RP, I have to explain to anyone under 50.

    Rising Damp. I loved it too.
     
  11. fizzie

    fizzie Registered User

    Jul 20, 2011
    2,740
    nah its not rising damp sorry
    it is the fall and rise of Reginad Perrin lol
    loved rising damp too though
     
  12. Tin

    Tin Registered User

    May 18, 2014
    4,829
    UK
    The fall and rise of Reggie Perrin. Remade a few yeas ago with Martin Clunes playing the lead.
     
  13. Lilac Blossom

    Lilac Blossom Registered User

    Oct 6, 2014
    499
    Scotland


    Ah yes, many a time I have felt like that. I wouldn't do it but we all can dream.........:)
     
  14. pamann

    pamann Registered User

    Oct 28, 2013
    2,635
    Kent
    Hello Jean, now my hubby is in a CH l can just walk away, l leave it to the professionals, its a good feeling ☺
     
  15. Emac

    Emac Registered User

    Mar 2, 2013
    171
    why walk when you can fly?

    My favourite fantasy is to go to the airport and catch the first easyjet flight to anywhere. It would have to be a one way ticket though!
     
  16. Emac

    Emac Registered User

    Mar 2, 2013
    171
    I agree Dustycat. my Mum has just gone into a care home- before that she lived with Dad and somehow my workload has doubled! Clothes labelling, meetings, keeping on top of them to make sure she is eating and drinking as she is (naturally) upset by the move, so I absolutely get that the care home gives you different problems but doesn't actually remove them completely......
     
  17. Quilty

    Quilty Registered User

    Aug 28, 2014
    1,056
    GLASGOW
    I understand completely. Sometimes in my car I feel like just driving until I run out of petrol and living where I stop. Its just too much responsibility sometimes. My Mum is now in a care home. I dont worry about here being alone in the house now but there are a million other things to manage and worry about. I feel like I will never be free.

    With your kids they grow a little bit more independent each day. With dementia its in reverse.
     
  18. exhausted 2015

    exhausted 2015 Registered User

    Jul 5, 2015
    624
    Female
    stoke on trent
    You are not alone I quite often feel that way. But I'm still here hope you are feeling better soon xx
     
  19. dollydee

    dollydee Registered User

    May 9, 2015
    16
    Burnley
    Know that feeling

    My husband has now been OFFICIALLY diagnosed, it's mixed dementia. Vascular dementia and Alzheimer's. This is on top of the colorectal cancer and colostomy bag. He has no idea, speaks of his tummy and forgetful problems. I feel like running out the door several times a day!! But we don't. We keep going. I have to get up every 2 1/2 hours through the night to check his bag. If not he has accidents which are not to even be discussed. Hours of cleaning result. Trouble is one gets so very tired over the months. My daughter who was staying with us accused me of being a drama queen last Monday. I was so hurt. She went to stay with her brother who also seems to be more distant. My husbands three children don't even phone. It's the loneliness and fear that get to me.
     
  20. lizzybean

    lizzybean Registered User

    Feb 3, 2014
    1,398
    Lancashire
    Drama queen!!! Would she like to try it? Day in day out, constantly?? No! I didn't think so. Hurt & also outraged on your behalf.
     

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