Hello
I have been in a similar position to your husband. Everything you say seems the same except the being picked up by the police and being sectioned. I was told several times by the memory service that I was too young to have dementia. I got the impression that they thought I was too lazy to do a decent days work. I was off work sick. I was only eventually taken seriously after my wife made a series of complaints through the PALs service for our local memory service. I got a series of cognitive tests a year apart. The doctor who did them said I was normal for a person who had studied to A level standard. Then came the problem of making them accept that I had degrees and responsible for training teachers as well as teaching children. The tests 2 years apart showed a big decline. Along with brain scans whih showed that I had had strokes I got a diagnosis of vascular dementia at 51.
DVLA revoked my license.
My employer tried to go down the incompetence route to dismiss me. I was lucky in that I had brilliant union support and got early retirement.
Getting the diagnosis is awful. You feel like you are a failure and your wolrd is ending but with the support of family and friends you can start to work with the new normal. Its always a new and changing normal but with the diagnosis comes support....so long as you keep working at getting the support. It needs those close to realise things ae changing and different support is needed.
For the first 2 years I went into a primary school as a volunteer to hear children read. That was good. I enjoyed it.
I would say keep at the memory service. If dementia is found use it to get support and establish a new normal
John
I have been in a similar position to your husband. Everything you say seems the same except the being picked up by the police and being sectioned. I was told several times by the memory service that I was too young to have dementia. I got the impression that they thought I was too lazy to do a decent days work. I was off work sick. I was only eventually taken seriously after my wife made a series of complaints through the PALs service for our local memory service. I got a series of cognitive tests a year apart. The doctor who did them said I was normal for a person who had studied to A level standard. Then came the problem of making them accept that I had degrees and responsible for training teachers as well as teaching children. The tests 2 years apart showed a big decline. Along with brain scans whih showed that I had had strokes I got a diagnosis of vascular dementia at 51.
DVLA revoked my license.
My employer tried to go down the incompetence route to dismiss me. I was lucky in that I had brilliant union support and got early retirement.
Getting the diagnosis is awful. You feel like you are a failure and your wolrd is ending but with the support of family and friends you can start to work with the new normal. Its always a new and changing normal but with the diagnosis comes support....so long as you keep working at getting the support. It needs those close to realise things ae changing and different support is needed.
For the first 2 years I went into a primary school as a volunteer to hear children read. That was good. I enjoyed it.
I would say keep at the memory service. If dementia is found use it to get support and establish a new normal
John
Hi , so glad I have found these forums. For the last 4 years my husband has been really struggling at work he was in a very stressful job but he was beginning to not be able to cope. He was advised to go on the sick and that was twelve months ago and although I see no worsening of his Cognitive Impairment there is no improvement. His sick notes fro GP just said fatigue. He had had scans blood tests memory tests and nothing until the police picked him up the other day for driving too close behind a vehicle. He was sectioned and held in a mental institution for assessment and later released. They are referring him back to the memory clinic . I am so fed up of going around in circles and do frightened if dementia is found. He is do slow just tired all the time and easily distracted . I would be grateful if someone who has been in this situation could advise