Mum has been in her care home now for two years, initially we used to take her out and about and visiting her was sad but ok as we could still have some sort of conversation with her. She is now very frail, sleeps a lot and finds it hard to walk very far. Talking to her is very hard as she talks about the most bizarre things and nothing makes any sense at all, she is basically a shell of her former self and generally is very far away. How do you cope visiting your beloved mum who was your everything when it's so upsetting? Should I not visit any more ? Maybe it's doing more harm than good for me and her. Just don't know what to do for the best it's so heartbreaking.