just been to visit mam in the care home with my sister. She has been there two weeks now having been transfered there from hospital after a rapid decline in her vascular dementia. It gets harder to visit her because when we go she cries and says she wants to go home and that it is horrible there. (We know it is not cos she is getting well looked after). She says it is all our fault cos we promised not to put her somewhere like that and we have. We just keep telling her that it wasn't us it was the doctors and she has to stay there for now. It is my birthday today and when i told her she said happy birthday and then started rambling about something else which didn't make sense. Hard to make sense of it all really when you think it is an important day in her life as well as mine. We have a meeting with the doctor on Monday hopefully will get some information on this awful illness and some advice on what to say to her when she does go on about going home etc.