Had a visit this afternoon from a memory clinic nurse ( don't know why, they phoned mum to make the appointment which was helpful, it was just lucky I was there). I wrote a list of all mums changes etc so I didn't need to speak in front of her but it didn't stop him. Mum has forgotten she has dementia and we don't mention it but he must have said it about 100 times. He also talked about putting her in a care home and other things as if she wasn't there. It was awful. The only saving grace was mum had taken her hearing aids out for some reason so couldn't hear half of what he said. Surely these people should know better. Mum thinks she is still like a 50 year old with nothing wrong with her. Her memory is fine, she doesn't cry all the time, my friend comes round to visit her ( alzheimers carer) etc. she doesn't need to be reminded of the reality of her situation that's for me to stress over. Visit was a total waste of time, other than suggesting getting night carers in ( who is paying for that?) and maybe putting her doneprezil up to 15mg ( could that make any difference).