@Tabby-cat , if your mum has a phone maybe now is the time for it to develop a 'fault'. If the home are letting her phone you, maybe ask that they try to distract her, rather than asking you to calm her down. It sounds like she has caught herself in a bit of a loop.
My brother continues to improve and sister-in-law was able to take their ten year old son to see him on the way to lunch with mum and my family. I chose a country house hotel close to mum's home for an early afternoon tea for her Christmas treat from us. It was ideal, the place is very palatial, the staff attentive and mum enjoyed the finger food and champagne, as did the rest of us. The staff took a picture of us all that we sent to my brother so he could feel that he'd been involved. Mum was very muddled, and seems to have problems giving items their correct name, she talked about sausages, when I think she was referring to her nightie for instance, but she had fun and did more or less know who we all are. She didn't mention my brother, but I think her brain was trying to compute who was missing.
One slight worry was that her fall looks like it might have been more serious than I thought. She fell a few times when at home, and never did herself harm, so wasn't concerned when the home phoned She has a bit of a black eye this time, so obviously bashed herself on something. I intended on making an appointment with the manager to talk through mum's care early in the New Year anyway, so that will be something to discuss.
My brother continues to improve and sister-in-law was able to take their ten year old son to see him on the way to lunch with mum and my family. I chose a country house hotel close to mum's home for an early afternoon tea for her Christmas treat from us. It was ideal, the place is very palatial, the staff attentive and mum enjoyed the finger food and champagne, as did the rest of us. The staff took a picture of us all that we sent to my brother so he could feel that he'd been involved. Mum was very muddled, and seems to have problems giving items their correct name, she talked about sausages, when I think she was referring to her nightie for instance, but she had fun and did more or less know who we all are. She didn't mention my brother, but I think her brain was trying to compute who was missing.
One slight worry was that her fall looks like it might have been more serious than I thought. She fell a few times when at home, and never did herself harm, so wasn't concerned when the home phoned She has a bit of a black eye this time, so obviously bashed herself on something. I intended on making an appointment with the manager to talk through mum's care early in the New Year anyway, so that will be something to discuss.
