1. Expert Q&A: Protecting a person with dementia from financial abuse - Weds 26 June, 3:30-4:30 pm

    Financial abuse can have serious consequences for a person with dementia. Find out how to protect a person with dementia from financial abuse.

    Sam, our Knowledge Officer (Legal and Welfare Rights) is our expert on this topic. She will be here to answer your questions on Wednesday 26 June between 3:30 - 4:30 pm.

    You can either post questions >here< or email them to us at talkingpoint@alzheimers.org.uk and we'll answer as many as we can on the day.

  1. ronyork

    ronyork Registered User

    Apr 28, 2015
    43
    Hunts
    Any views on violence how best to cope, punching ,kicking and scratching, I have tried to pacify saying perhaps (come on lets have a coffee/tea) that makes matters worse. 30 Mins later all is quite normal
     
  2. Jessbow

    Jessbow Registered User

    is it you that is being attacked? walk away until the other person is calm, fix a bolt to the inside of a bedroom door and make sure your mobile phone is handy and charged at all times.

    Keep yourself safe at all times.

    How often is it happening and to what severity? Is there a trigger?
     
  3. ronyork

    ronyork Registered User

    Apr 28, 2015
    43
    Hunts
    violence

    Hi Jessbow, Yes its myself being attacked sometinmes out of the blue The trigger something small I am reading to much to much T.V sometimes helping choose clothes when going out the nearest item is picked op to lash out i.e tea tray remote control library book any thing handy. not to often I am glad to say, also punching and kicking and use of nails. Such is life,
     
  4. Jessbow

    Jessbow Registered User

    *Such is life* is an okay approach until it gets more severe...like you get knocked off your feet with a punch, or scalded by a hot drink that gets launched.


    Find yourself a sentence and practice saying it , and mean it.

    ''I am going into the other room/kitchen /bedroom until you are a bit calmer''

    AND do it.

    Start now before it escalates- and do mention it to your GP too.
     
  5. Chuggalug

    Chuggalug Registered User

    Mar 24, 2014
    8,007
    Norfolk
    Ron, if you have someone who could film these events, it might be wise to try and catch one or two outbursts on camera during the time it happens and send that to your doctor. However you look upon this, you are currently as vulnerable as your loved one at the moment. Be as wise as you can and get help, at least from your GP.
     
  6. AlsoConfused

    AlsoConfused Registered User

    Sep 17, 2010
    1,958
    Talk to your loved one's doctor (the psychiatrist or GP) or Mental health nurse too. It's just possible that tweaking the medication a bit could control the violence. My Mum was less violent and less often violent after her medication was tweaked.
     
  7. Alan19531953

    Alan19531953 Registered User

    Jun 16, 2015
    36
    Olanzaprine

    Greatly helped my wife. Downside she now has a water retention problem but at least I can go to sleep without needing a stab jacket.
     
  8. JayGun

    JayGun Registered User

    Jun 24, 2013
    298
    I second this. MIL is much less likely to kick or shove or throw things since she has been on Memantine as well as Aricept.
     
  9. pamann

    pamann Registered User

    Oct 28, 2013
    2,635
    Kent
    My hubby has just started talking Memantine for his aggression, it has worked wonders, he is so calm now, hope it lastsâ˜ș
     
  10. Bay

    Bay Registered User

    Jul 24, 2014
    44
    Kent
    My OH also takes Memantine which has improved his aggression and anxiety.
     

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