Hi, I’ve signed up here as I’m worried, scared and need advice. I’m an only child with no immediate family my Mum is 77, my Dad died 12 months ago last week!! I’ve been concerned about my Mum for a few years, my Dad was diagnosed with cancer last April and we cared for him at home. My Mums memory was put on the back burner the GP was aware ,timing etc was not great. Over the past 12 months my Mum was diagnosed with AF one week after he died, blue lighted to A&E, November had a UTI and ended up in hospital for 2 weeks the infection was mild but the agitated delirium kept her in, this was hugely stressful, however as soon as she was home a good recovery was made. 3 weeks ago she had a further UTI which I was quick to get sorted as I did not want a repeat of November’s hospital stay. I knew something was wrong as she was having vivid hallucinations, delusions heightened, and my Dad was back in the house!! She is clear of UTI but I think she is sundowning as I get very odd messages and so do other members of the family, I do have a memory test booked, she adamantly refuses these but I have booked it along with her B12 jab. I’ve spoken to GP who feels it’s not her meds or water infection but probably cognitive related, I’m worried sick she is alone at home I cannot stay over due my young family, I don’t know how to tackle her when she is explaining her delusions, and it’s so upsetting when my Dad is involved, I have to say he’s not here because he’s died,she won’t go out, this week she has made all sorts of excuses such as not well, in bed sick, but when I go round she is well but exhausted, probably because she is up half the night. She does have wander alarms and she can’t walk far. Her logic is wayward, concept of time day non existent which proves so problematic with her meds, I have to go round daily. any help from social services will be refused point blank. Once a diagnosis is made what sort of support is available, any advice from people who have been through the same would be so welcome.