Mum's eight months into her care home stay now and the first six months were spent packing demanding to come home or thinking she was coming home. Then all the packing stopped she would still ask if I was there to take her home but accepted 'not just yet'. Three weeks ago mum stopped asking to be taken home she would even come home for a few hours and then be anxious to go back. This was very pleasing to me as she finally was contented and looked at the place as 'Home'. I go just about everyday I miss a day here or there....mum has deteriorated to a point were her personal care needs require supervision hence the reason I go so often. It's the luck of the draw with carers if she has her hearing aids, false teeth in or her glasses on I don't need to explain the pitfalls if she hasn't. I also shower and wash her hair but things there are picking up they have before and then things wane again. It's not possible for me to bring her home I can't look after both her and dad and mum's needs are 24/7 and dad can't help anymore. Over the weekend mum was fine happy and didn't want to come out because of the rain. Monday, disastrous she wasn't sitting in her usual chair she had her handbag over her shoulder and there was no smile to greet me. She told me she had got her marching orders if she didn't have such a look of despair I think I would have chuckled. I took her in her room everything was packed she wasn't leaving them anything she would rather take what she didn't want home and bin it. It was pitiful! I convinced her to stay until the next morning hoping for a better outcome. Tuesday the situation was worse mum totally convinced she wasn't welcome no one liked her they were all mean and didn't want to be her friend. The carers were at a loss she was having nothing to do with anyone there. This is just a possibility two other female residents are constantly on her back about helping the carers with odd jobs mum likes to help and the carers are great that way, I know it helps them but it is more that mum enjoys doing the odd jobs and they are happy seeing this. I think one lady may have confronted mum and this is what has set her off BIG TIME! as this lady tells the carers they are just lazy and mum pays her way. I have also heard this lady when I have gone in and mum always finishes her little task first this annoys this lady no end. Wednesday things had escalated to the point that mum had to start serenace. I took mum in a broom duster and scoop this way she could fiddle in her own room. Management was agreeable they are very good like that anything within reason to keep them happy. They will encourage mum to continue doing her other little tasks because she does enjoy this. Today, no mention about eviction everything packed again she had even stripped the bed. She just isn't staying there anymore she is coming home. I told her she had to stay until such times that someone was available to move in full time and look after her and dad. I tell her that dad is in the old men's home, this is what in her time they were referred too. Boy, when my name comes up they'll surely padlock the 'Pearly Gates'. Sometimes it is all too much. I just hope that this medication Serenace is going to be very short term owing to the increase risks in falls. Thanks for reading. Love Taffy.