1. Expert Q&A: Benefits - Weds 23 October, 3-4pm

    Our next expert Q&A will be on the topic of benefits. It will be hosted by Lauren from our Knowledge Services team. She'll be answering your questions on Wednesday 23 October between 3-4pm.

    You can either post your question >here< or email them to us at talkingpoint@alzheimers.org.uk and we'll be happy to ask them on your behalf.

  1. daddykins

    daddykins Registered User

    Jul 14, 2012
    148
    Portland, Dorset
    I have just seen my wife completely and utterly confused. Yes she can be a little confused at times, but tonight was the worst I have ever seen her.
    We'd had an early tea, just after 5, so around 7.30 she went for a nap. Nothing unusual in that, she often does and I record her 'soaps'' for later viewing.
    About 8.15 she came into the lounge very upset and asking for her breakfast as we will be late for the dentist, which is tomorrow morning.
    It took me some time to convince her that it was only Wednesday evening and the more I tried to explain, the more upset she became.
    I did eventually convince her to go back to bed, but it seemed to take for ever.
    I've only cried once before, when a similar thing happened some time ago, when she did not recognise me and that really hurt. But tonight, I am sorry to admit, the tears came back again.
    It's not supposed to be like this, I'm a big, strong man, alright I'm in my early 70's, and 'big men don't cry' went the song, but I did. I could not help myself.
    I just hope that when she does wake next, that like the time she did not recognise me, she has no memory of this episode.
     
  2. canary

    canary Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    10,569
    Female
    South coast
    Ive seen this happen too.
    Its as if the sleep means to them that it must be morning - Ive just woken up, I was asleep therefore it must be morning. Er, no - but I couldnt convince her otherwise.
     
  3. daddykins

    daddykins Registered User

    Jul 14, 2012
    148
    Portland, Dorset
    My wife has just woken up again and has no memory of the episode at all I am pleased to say, so I have not pressed the point and she is happy watching the television.
     
  4. canary

    canary Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    10,569
    Female
    South coast
    Im glad to hear that daddykins :)
     
  5. chick1962

    chick1962 Registered User

    Apr 3, 2014
    11,280
    Female
    near Folkestone
    It may be a bit of sun downing ? My husband gets like that in the evening, confused and disoriented. The brain has to concentrate that much during the day by late afternoon it gets tired and confusion can start. My husband calls it when the mist comes in . Thinking of you


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  6. Jessbow

    Jessbow Registered User

    Daddykins, Big men are allowed to cry, as are small men, fat men and thin men
    Its fine, You big old heart must be breaking.

    Sometimes a good cry release the tension, and although you might feel daft, its natural.

    I used to weep on a regular basis.
    x
     
  7. Lilac Blossom

    Lilac Blossom Registered User

    Oct 6, 2014
    520
    Scotland
    Hubby often doesn't know who I am, sometimes thinks I am his mum - yes it is sad and I do shed tears too. I also am in early 70s. Don't feel bad about crying Daddykins, it helps sometimes xx
     
  8. patsy56

    patsy56 Registered User

    Jan 14, 2015
    840
    Fife Scotland
    I am so sorry to hear all this.
     

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