Sorry, it's me again. I really don't know what to do about Mum and I am finding it increasingly difficult to cope. I rang her (on the Isle of Wight) tonight to say that my husband and would be over tomorrow and she told me she didn't want me to go and that she never wanted me or any member of my family to go to her home ever again. I tried to remain calm and asked her why. Still don't really know what I've done wrong but apparently all her friends and neighbours know what a horrible, lying person I am. I am so upset and really don't know what to do. I only visit alternate weeks now because of this and still plan to visit tomorrow, although I am not sure she will let us in. I think it will be a very short visit. I know it is all part of the dementia, but why do I get it all directed at me and what can I do about it. I still can't believe how incredibly nasty she can be. What worries me is that it is going to get worse. Would it just be better if I didn't visit at all?