Verbal aggression - no sign tonight

ChrisD

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Jul 22, 2007
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Hampshire
I had a phone call from my mum tonight (shock, horror), the first one for months, and she didn't shout at me once. I think the heart-felt letter I sent her prompted a call. We talked about 20 minutes and although the gas cooker did come into the conversation she didn't call me any horrid names once. John and I are going over to the Island to see her tomorrow for a couple of hours. Am still shaking an hour later. I used to shake after previous conversations with her but at least I am smiling this time. Long may it last.
 

Grannie G

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Apr 3, 2006
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Well done Chris.
Just because someone has Alzheimers, doesn`t mean they are beyond reach.
Love xx
 

Skye

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Aug 29, 2006
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SW Scotland
Wow, that's progress, Chris!

Good luck with the visit tomorrow, I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Love,
 

Taffy

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Apr 15, 2007
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Hi Cris, I am really happy for you. Hopefully this maybe the start to better times ahead. I hope so anyway. Best of Luck. Regards Taffy. :) :)
 

Mameeskye

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Chris

That is good. It can be so difficult. I know how nasty my MUm was to me in the early days.

Hope it continues

Mameeskye
 

ChrisD

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Jul 22, 2007
27
Hampshire
Went to see Mum today. All went well. It was a bit like treading on eggshells but there was no mention of the gas cooker. I read a report in the carers notes from yesterday where the carer had said to mum that she felt she ought to ring me, having seen the letter that I wrote. Mum had said there was no way she would forgive me for the cooker, even though she had it in writing that I was not involved in it being switched off, and she would definitely not ring me ever again. She must have had a change of heart after the carer left, and she did ring. At least I feel that I can probably ring her now without the verbal abuse. The Social Worker is visiting her Friday to discuss the cooker, or some other means of cooking, so it may all change again. I still feel there is quite a way to go but at least progress has been made.