I need more info on forms of dementia not Alzhiemers. I think mum has vascular dementia and its breaking my heart. We know its not Alzhiemers because of a scan she had which cleared that. I want to sob and sob right now even though she is not dead and only in the early stages so when she is bad I'll have 'done that'. But people think I am being dramatic and out of order.
If your mum suddenly looked at you gesticulating and talking gibberish and in the last six months had lost freedom of mobility and shuffled around and suddenly couldn't cook dinner and was angry a lot and your Dad was asking questions about Alzhiemers and neurological disorders where are you supposed to put it? How do I care for them unless I have made my own peace - and how do I make my own peace without enough information and the understanding of my own husband and family?
They retired to Spain 13 years ago from Scotland and she can't come back now because the stress of being out of her own environment makes her worse. I can't move to Spain because my daughter is too young and our work is here. My brother and sister don't want to know and my husband gets upset if I cry.
Is it normal to feel grief now? Am I just a nutter myself. I am 46 and she is 73. I love my mum and I think I am going to break but I musn't because she needs me and so does my dad.
Fiona
If your mum suddenly looked at you gesticulating and talking gibberish and in the last six months had lost freedom of mobility and shuffled around and suddenly couldn't cook dinner and was angry a lot and your Dad was asking questions about Alzhiemers and neurological disorders where are you supposed to put it? How do I care for them unless I have made my own peace - and how do I make my own peace without enough information and the understanding of my own husband and family?
They retired to Spain 13 years ago from Scotland and she can't come back now because the stress of being out of her own environment makes her worse. I can't move to Spain because my daughter is too young and our work is here. My brother and sister don't want to know and my husband gets upset if I cry.
Is it normal to feel grief now? Am I just a nutter myself. I am 46 and she is 73. I love my mum and I think I am going to break but I musn't because she needs me and so does my dad.
Fiona