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@Hazara8 your last paragraph just made me cry (in a nice way!). You have a great way with words on this topic.
We've had a terrible day today, on top of what happened yesterday. This morning mum sat up on the bed and managed to stand for a transfer onto the commode. Good, I thought, some strength is back. But dementia, as always, has other ideas. After breakfast onto the commode again, weak, but standing OK on the rotunda for a transfer. Popped her into the recliner and tried to get her out a few hours later for another commode visit, and the left arm was completely useless. Tried a few times, no go. Somehow managed to get the sling under her, and hoisted her into wheelchair and then into bed. There she will stay now for the rest of the day, and when the carer comes at 9pm, we can do another change. I will probably leave her in bed tomorrow as well. I should have learnt by now that after each TIA there is a period of sudden weakness with mum and then, usually a few days later, you know what you're left with.
Is it really bad of me to pray for a quick and painless end to this? Nothing has tested my faith as much as this situation, and sometimes when I pray, because sometimes that's all there seems left to do, I wonder if there's anyone listening. And yet, if I think about what has happened over the past two and a half years - I am blessed with a care agency who do an outstanding job and send us excellent carers, I have ended up in a house which completely suits mum's current requirements, I've had nothing but good support from our doctors and Adult Services. I have a lot to be thankful for and, at times, it's these 'positives' that pull me through the dark times. But, the focus is still my lovely, sweet mother, who didn't deserve to get this dreadful illness, but who does?
I have no regrets about what I've had to do so far to deal with this illness of mum's, just hope I have the strength to see it through to the end at home, with no doctors or parademics fighting me for a hospitalisation!