My poor mum (88yrs who has vascular dementia and some days she is absolutely normal) had a fall in the care home and broke her femur and fractured her upper arm. She was 2 hours on the floor waiting for the 999 amulance screaming in agony as she wasn't classed as urgent! Anyway she had to undergo surgery to have plates put in her leg and the surgeon relectantly had to give her anaesthetic for the procedure and said there was a very high risk she wouldn't make it with her other health issues (heart). OMG since the operation is has been horrendous and really distressing to see her. She has really gone downhill with confusion, won't eat, drink, take meds, rips the cancula out, won't let nurses take blood and screams if they try!!! Staff have managed to get an IV in which she can't reach and she see's the staff as the enemy. I have been going from work to try and feed her in the evening which is a battle. She hasn't been mobilised yet as she is too weak but is hoisted into a chair daily. We are now 7 days in and no change to her confusion. I know she will be confused with lack of fluids but has anyone out there had a similar experience with a parent and anaesthetic because I hope to god this set back won't be permanent and made her dementia worse.