Urinating problem

[Chezza69]

Hi. My Mum cares for my Dad who is in his early eighties full time but coping with the urinating is getting harder and harder. He usually knows when he wants to go but unless she is watching him constantly he will pee in really random places. If she can see that he needs to go she will take him in to the bathroom but he will very often refuse to go down the toilet not believing that is where he should go.

Sometimes he cant get his zip down fast enough and pees himself and sometimes he says he want to pee but doesn't know what to do.

She's tried putting pads on him but he either pulls them out or it just makes it harder for him if he does remember what to do.

Any suggestions of anything we could try would be very much appreciated.

Thanks

 

[stanleypj]

Hi Chezza69 and welcome to TP.

I can tell you that the problems you describe are shared by many members. I haven't had this particular problem but I do understand from previous threads how frustrating it must be to try to sort it out.

I hope you'll soon get some suggestions from people who have 'been there'.

 

[cragmaid]

I'm sorry I cannot help much, I'm afraid this is not a problem my Mum suffered, but from various sources I can offer...pull ups( tena type) rather than separate pad...that way he might manage to not pull them away and pull up trousers or track suit/jogger bottoms rather than belt,zip or buttonned trousers are quicker to pull down.
Ask the incontinence nurse attached to your GP for advice.

 

[Spamar]

Pull ups, definately. Near enough to pants for no quibbles. The nappy type ones used to be shredded!
Also a urine bottle for night use, which worked well with OH for a while. He had no objection to it, fortunately.

 

[Emmy_83]

Yes my dad has a plastic jug next to the bed that he uses if he thinks he's not going to make it to the toilet.

I think the doctor also prescribed him tablets to help and he's also on a low dose of antibiotic which staves off reoccurring infections that he kept getting.

 

[Emmy_83]

My dad has a plastic jug next to the bed that he uses if he thinks he's not going to make it to the toilet.

He's also on a low dose of antibiotic which staves off reoccurring infections that he kept getting.

 

[Feline]

Hi. My Mum cares for my Dad who is in his early eighties full time but coping with the urinating is getting harder and harder. He usually knows when he wants to go but unless she is watching him constantly he will pee in really random places. If she can see that he needs to go she will take him in to the bathroom but he will very often refuse to go down the toilet not believing that is where he should go.

Sometimes he cant get his zip down fast enough and pees himself and sometimes he says he want to pee but doesn't know what to do.

She's tried putting pads on him but he either pulls them out or it just makes it harder for him if he does remember what to do.

Any suggestions of anything we could try would be very much appreciated.

Thanks

It is a very difficult stage, pull up pants are probably the best way forward ,he will have to pay for them himself unless he becomes incontinent in which case contact D N and have a continence assessment done. He may then get pants funded by NHS.
Regular toileting may help, take him at intervals and he may go and it won't be so urgent to sort the trousers etc. also avoid too much coffee because of it being a diuretic continue with other drinks, also a toilet surround may help, (contact OT) so that it might encourage him to sit down and go into the toilet, wishing you luck

 

[Keepingup]

we've found the pants to be the best solution all round. Not always needed by Mum if she's reminded to go to the loo but there for emergencies so much easier for us (or carers if in) to deal with.

We were advised to use the large (well massive) pads but they irritated and confused her and it wasn't difficult to understand this, I think most people would feel the same.