Firstly Hello to you all. I am new on here and a bit nervous as well but could do with some advice please and support. My dad who is 82 has Multi-infarc Dementia and has beem like this since having to retire when he was 58 from work. My mum is his sole carer as well and has her own health problems too. I am his daughter and i also have a chronic pain condition called Fibromyalgia and also ME/CFS and am mainly housebound and feel so helpless that i can't help my mum and dad. Dad's health had rapidly got worse the past 2/3 years and suffers with 2/3 TIA/S each day now. He is cathiterised and has been for many years now as has a stricture and waterworks problems. Dad has many other health problems too. He does have tremendous support from our local Althemiers support group and going into respite once a week each month to give mum a break. He is the most loving and caring dad anyone could wish for and a very religious man. His days now are soley sat in the chair or bed praying constantly with his rosary and is a very gentle man who would'nt hurt anyone. However last night mum rang in a panic as he just stared at her and said "who are you" and where am i?". This went on for 2 hours and mum just gently talked to him and kept calm but he became very agitated and started picking at his clothing and rocking in the chair. His memory has come back and he dos'nt remember anything but seems so much more slower now. His Gp said he may have had a bigger stroke which had triggered this. Thing is want to ask is that my mum rang my Gp and was told it was a one off but we think this is the start of things to come as dad has been having blank spots of mum catching him staring into space alot and fiditing. He has fallen alot now and feel last week so wonder if this has triggered something as well. He has difficulty walking too and shuffles all the time now quite bad. I feel so guilty and so helpless that i can't help my mum with my dad and it's making me ill now. Mum dar'nt leave now now alone in the house in case of this happening again and just dos'nt know where to turn now for help. Thanks for reading about my dear dad. Julie.