Hi - not posted since my original post back in May when we had just found out my dad has likely got dementia of sorts. He also has Parkinson's Disease. We are still waiting for referal to physciatric (sp?) unit for formal diagnosis and to learn extent of problem. Been in touch with Social Services but no formal help or advice yet given .
Back in May my dad had a 'physcotic' episode where he just kept trying to leave the house all the time and his balance was so bad that it wasn't good for him to do so. We ended up having to dial 999 to get assistance and they took him to hospital and turns out he had severe kidney infection which they treated with antibiotics and he improved with his behaviour.
He has done some very bizarre things since then. On the whole he is OK but sometimes not - like being in the garage at the back of the house dressed in shorts which he wet so he simply took them off and carried on pottering around the garage starkers
Anyway, this evening his behaviour appears to be turning unreasonable again. I have 3 young kids and cannot rush to help my mum as my hubbie is at work until at least 11pm. At 7pm he insisted that he wanted to go on the bus to B & Q which is in the next town and closes at 8pm. He wouldn't listen to reason and set off to the bus stop. My mum has managed to get him home where he wanted to ring for a taxi to take him but she managed to get him to realise it was too late to get there in time and had promised to take him first thing in the morning. Hopefully, he will not insist on doing anymore unreasonable things tonight and my mum has brought him round to her thinking.
But what do we do if we cannot reason with him?? What happens if, like the last time, he is not fit to be outside but fights us (literally) to get out where he is likely to be a danger to himself and others? How do we stop him if we cannot physically help him to do what he wants to do?
My mum is so desparate to manage him at home and she can most of the time but I am not sure for how long.
Just knowing the right way to do things to keep his frustrations at bay may help or knowing what to do if he turns violent again would also be helpful unfortunately.
Thank you all for any advice you can give.
Janice
Back in May my dad had a 'physcotic' episode where he just kept trying to leave the house all the time and his balance was so bad that it wasn't good for him to do so. We ended up having to dial 999 to get assistance and they took him to hospital and turns out he had severe kidney infection which they treated with antibiotics and he improved with his behaviour.
He has done some very bizarre things since then. On the whole he is OK but sometimes not - like being in the garage at the back of the house dressed in shorts which he wet so he simply took them off and carried on pottering around the garage starkers
Anyway, this evening his behaviour appears to be turning unreasonable again. I have 3 young kids and cannot rush to help my mum as my hubbie is at work until at least 11pm. At 7pm he insisted that he wanted to go on the bus to B & Q which is in the next town and closes at 8pm. He wouldn't listen to reason and set off to the bus stop. My mum has managed to get him home where he wanted to ring for a taxi to take him but she managed to get him to realise it was too late to get there in time and had promised to take him first thing in the morning. Hopefully, he will not insist on doing anymore unreasonable things tonight and my mum has brought him round to her thinking.
But what do we do if we cannot reason with him?? What happens if, like the last time, he is not fit to be outside but fights us (literally) to get out where he is likely to be a danger to himself and others? How do we stop him if we cannot physically help him to do what he wants to do?
My mum is so desparate to manage him at home and she can most of the time but I am not sure for how long.
Just knowing the right way to do things to keep his frustrations at bay may help or knowing what to do if he turns violent again would also be helpful unfortunately.
Thank you all for any advice you can give.
Janice