I had the most awful day yesterday and need advice to get me through the weekend. I visited my parents who live 1.5 hrs away. They both have dementia as I've mentioned before. We had a good morning and all seemed ok. During lunch we had a Tesco delivery as I'm trying to get them to do this as they keep running low on food and a member of their Home treatment team called in. As I was seeing this lady out and having a small chat all hell broke loose as mum came to the door and said'you better come in weve had a fight'...well it appears it was over putting the shopping away but dad ended up with deep nail cuts and was bleeding and mum said dad tried to hit her first. It seems dad tried to put the shopping away and mum tried to stop him. It seems she doesn't give him any responsibility these days. I had to then take mum to an apt which was very necessary so the HTT lady stayed with dad until my sister came. She said she was very concerned and suggested respite for dad over the weekend. Dad said he didn't want to stay 'with that woman' and mum in the car said she was happy for dad to go. Unfortunately respite didn't happen and we as a family have been let to 'hold the fort' over the weekend. We've never had to deal with this before and we don't know if we've done right but we took dad to my sisters and let mum at home(she isn't that far down the line to not leave). I spoke to mum and she said this happens a lot and its the 'norm' now but at the time she suggested dad had scratched himself which he hadn't. She said she knows he needs to go away sometime and that she must get used to it but that they had never been apart. Anyway mum was ok during the night as it ok still at home but the problem is dad. He has woken today and has forgotten all that happened yesterday and want to see his wife. I came home and intend to go back tomorrow but if dad says this all day long what should my sister do? We wont be back with the HTT till Monday when they are coming back to assess mum and dad. Do we take dad back today or at least hang on till tomorrow. Mum was meant to be having a break will one day be enough? If she's happy having him home should we take him back? They've never been apart in 53 years and its so so hard to see this going on. My brother is hopefully going to support my sister today but dad was up at 7 ready to go 'home' to the place he will hate when he gets there because once there he wont recognise mum. Sorry to go on...any advice anybody????