Good morning everyone, I feel like I am on a roller coaster and cant get off and I dont even like the things. As you know we have found my Dad a lovely nursing home and are currently waiting for a bed so last Friday we were up beat and felt like we had something to look forward to, getting Dad out of the assesment unit and settled. The home is comfy and caring and more importantly there is laughter and a good feeling about the place. I had to go away for the weekend to a family wedding and on the Sunday I got a text from my mum asking what time I would be home, oh god I could just tell from six little words that something was wrong. Dad had pushed another resident over hurting them and had also escaped from the unit and had to be brought back which resulted in one of the nurses being injured. My poor Mum was all alone with this I should never have gone to the wedding.
Monday saw me home again and able to pick my Mums spirits up and get her to accept that its not Dad doing these horrible things its the AZ. Tuesday we had a meeting with the consultant who finally agreed to Dad getting his Aricept back but also telling us that in addition to the AZ Dad also has Vascular Dementia so now we have a whole new lot of information to find out about.
Visits with Dad have been ok this week we are lucky that he does still remember us both and even called my Mum by her name on Wed so we left happy for a change, we visit every day and can talk to many of the other residents 2 one lady in particular is such a sweetheart and always comes to hold my hand while we are there I have not seen a visitor for this lady in all the weeks that we have been going.
Mum is usualy a little upset when we leave Dad so I stay for an hour with her, I tell her about the posts on here and they really help her I wish I had found the site years ago. My problems start when I leave Mum and go home to my family I usually cry all the way home cos I need to get it our of my system. My partner and my boys are super and I love them to bits but they dont understand AZ and make comments about Dad that I cant deal with, I have found that it is better if I dont tell them 2 much and keep the peace. Its very hard for teenagers to understand AZ and to be fair they never really knew my Dad without it, so they tend to judge him saying things like well he has always been agressive comments like that make me jump to his defence so its best if I keep things to myself.
Its so important for me to have this site to moan on, thank you so much and im sorry for going on so long.
Monday saw me home again and able to pick my Mums spirits up and get her to accept that its not Dad doing these horrible things its the AZ. Tuesday we had a meeting with the consultant who finally agreed to Dad getting his Aricept back but also telling us that in addition to the AZ Dad also has Vascular Dementia so now we have a whole new lot of information to find out about.
Visits with Dad have been ok this week we are lucky that he does still remember us both and even called my Mum by her name on Wed so we left happy for a change, we visit every day and can talk to many of the other residents 2 one lady in particular is such a sweetheart and always comes to hold my hand while we are there I have not seen a visitor for this lady in all the weeks that we have been going.
Mum is usualy a little upset when we leave Dad so I stay for an hour with her, I tell her about the posts on here and they really help her I wish I had found the site years ago. My problems start when I leave Mum and go home to my family I usually cry all the way home cos I need to get it our of my system. My partner and my boys are super and I love them to bits but they dont understand AZ and make comments about Dad that I cant deal with, I have found that it is better if I dont tell them 2 much and keep the peace. Its very hard for teenagers to understand AZ and to be fair they never really knew my Dad without it, so they tend to judge him saying things like well he has always been agressive comments like that make me jump to his defence so its best if I keep things to myself.
Its so important for me to have this site to moan on, thank you so much and im sorry for going on so long.