It's hard to know where to start.
Mum is continuing to go downhill very quickly - it is very rare now that she attempts to communicate with anyone other than dad and spends most of her time in her own little world. She is becoming more confused all the time and her balance seems to start being affected. She can no longer read - I'm not sure about writing. It's such an aggressive dementia that she has - sometimes I think that's a good thing as it's not drawn out for her but it gives us no time to adjust to new behaviour before it changes again.
Mum seems very cross about my pregnancy - everytime she sees me she points to my stomach and glares at me and hisses - I hate to think what she'll be like when the baby is born!
Dad, after refusing any help from SS (gnashing of teeth from me!) has changed his mind again and says he needs help again. Unfortunately (or fortunately for my thinking) the CPN we were dealing with has gone off sick and they don't think she'll be coming back. Unbeknown to me, the new CPN had rung dad to tell him he was taking over the case and dad told him he didn't want to deal with him he wanted to deal with the old CPN??!!
I have persuaded him he had no choice in this and let's face it, the new one can't be any worse than the last one. I've told him to ring dad and he said he will and will go and see him this week but I'm afraid I'm cutting off my involvement at that point for now - as my sister said he's the little boy who cries "carer!". He says he wants them until it actually comes down to it and then changes his mind. My concern is that each time he does this they'll be less and less interested...? I'm certain that my demands that he needs help and can't cope anymore will be taken with a pinch of salt by this stage which is why I'm reluctant to overly involve myself at this point.
Once again it doesn't surprise me that this request for carers has come as my sister and I have backed off after the last debacle with dad and SS.
It sounds very harsh and I feel guilty for backing off but he just won't help himself as long as we continue to do everything for him.
The palaver with mum's overpaid salary is still ongoing. I was so angry today that they have sent her a letter again!! What have I got to do to make them understand? I've kicked off to high heaven this morning (which isn't good for my blood pressure!!) and have found someone prepared to take responsibility for the case and see it through. I have now sent written compaints to pretty much everyone. The worse thing about all this is that I work for the same place so it's not like I don't understand how these things work. I'm just astonished at the levels of incompetence.
Anyway that's about it.
Mum is continuing to go downhill very quickly - it is very rare now that she attempts to communicate with anyone other than dad and spends most of her time in her own little world. She is becoming more confused all the time and her balance seems to start being affected. She can no longer read - I'm not sure about writing. It's such an aggressive dementia that she has - sometimes I think that's a good thing as it's not drawn out for her but it gives us no time to adjust to new behaviour before it changes again.
Mum seems very cross about my pregnancy - everytime she sees me she points to my stomach and glares at me and hisses - I hate to think what she'll be like when the baby is born!
Dad, after refusing any help from SS (gnashing of teeth from me!) has changed his mind again and says he needs help again. Unfortunately (or fortunately for my thinking) the CPN we were dealing with has gone off sick and they don't think she'll be coming back. Unbeknown to me, the new CPN had rung dad to tell him he was taking over the case and dad told him he didn't want to deal with him he wanted to deal with the old CPN??!!
I have persuaded him he had no choice in this and let's face it, the new one can't be any worse than the last one. I've told him to ring dad and he said he will and will go and see him this week but I'm afraid I'm cutting off my involvement at that point for now - as my sister said he's the little boy who cries "carer!". He says he wants them until it actually comes down to it and then changes his mind. My concern is that each time he does this they'll be less and less interested...? I'm certain that my demands that he needs help and can't cope anymore will be taken with a pinch of salt by this stage which is why I'm reluctant to overly involve myself at this point.
Once again it doesn't surprise me that this request for carers has come as my sister and I have backed off after the last debacle with dad and SS.
It sounds very harsh and I feel guilty for backing off but he just won't help himself as long as we continue to do everything for him.
The palaver with mum's overpaid salary is still ongoing. I was so angry today that they have sent her a letter again!! What have I got to do to make them understand? I've kicked off to high heaven this morning (which isn't good for my blood pressure!!) and have found someone prepared to take responsibility for the case and see it through. I have now sent written compaints to pretty much everyone. The worse thing about all this is that I work for the same place so it's not like I don't understand how these things work. I'm just astonished at the levels of incompetence.
Anyway that's about it.
