Update on my mam

[CollegeGirl]

Some of you will remember that my mam was banned from the day centre because of her aggression and violence. Well, she's been accepted back, tentatively, for one day a week. She went last Friday and things went reasonably well - not perfect, but reasonable. So obviously things will have to be monitored.

And dad has sorted out a new pattern of respite. Some of you may know that mam's last respite was horrible - basically she was neglected and was in a terrible state when she came home, and dad was devastated. It's taken a lot of courage for him to accept respite again - obviously not at that particular home.

So, the new regime is going to be one night's respite every week! I think this is an excellent idea for them both. Mam can't come to much harm in just one night, dad will have the better part of two days free, and he won't worry so much while she's there because it's only one night.

So mam will go to respite on a Monday, stay overnight, be collected after tea on the Tuesday, and go to the day centre for a few hours every Friday.

Please keep your fingers crossed for us that this works out. We really need it to.

 

[ellejay]

Ooh fingers, toes & eyes crossed as we speak. Hope it goes well, from little acorns?

Lin x

 

[CollegeGirl]

Smiling at the thought of you crossing your eyes for us Lin, thank you! Don't trip!

 

[Grannie G]

Hello CG

At least your dad has been able to make a decision about respite for himself . It sounds ideal. I do hope it works and I do hope it helps him.

 

[turbo]

Hello College Girl, that does sound better for both your mum and dad. Hope your recovery is going well.


turbo

 

[CollegeGirl]

Thank you Sylvia and Turbo. I really hope it helps. For dad to have this very regular but short respite will allow him to have a life outside of dementia, time for his family, his friends and his garden. I'm praying it works.

 

[Izzy]

I do hope this works out for your dad (and your mum, of course). x

 

[Harp]

That's lovely - I hope it all works out at the day centre and for your dad.

 

[angecmc]

Hi, this sounds like a great solution, so pleased for you and your poor Dad, hopefully this will allow him to care for her at home even longer. My fingers are crossed that this will work for you all. Good luck to you all xx

Ange

 

[Mamsgirl]

Big decision for your Dad CG, very good news. All crossables crossed, Toni x

 

[CollegeGirl]

Thank you all, so much. It's nice to know that so many people are rooting (routing?) for us xx

 

[lilysmybabypup]

Excellent news, CG, and glad your dad feels comfortable about this new arrangement. I too shall cross all for it work out well.

Stephanie, xxx

 

[grove]

Lots of Positive Vibes & Support

Hello C Girl , Just catching up on T P after being at Work & am pleased your Dad has sorted out some respite & also pleased your Mum is able too start Day Club again Lots of positive vibes & support for you all especially your Dad ( & of course your Mam also )



( Sending healthy vibes for you also for a good recovery )


Love Grove x x x



P S .... So sorry the last respite was so awful & hope you complained ? sorry think I missed reading about it x

 

[geum123]

That sounds ideal CG.
I do hope it works out for you all.

 

[kingmidas1962]

EVERYTHING crossed ...

Maybe a new routine will be the answer - I do hope so
xxxxx

 

[Anongirl]

Good news! Onwards and upwards CG (and dad) xxx

 

[CollegeGirl]

Aw thank you everyone, you really help to keep up my spirits. Hope dad manages to get her there tomorrow. I'm not sure if he'll be able to arrange the respite to start on Monday or if will be too short notice for the home, but with all your fingers and other bits and pieces crossed, let's hope so!

xxx

 

[Eternity]

What a fantastic idea the regular 1 night respite is. I really hope it works out well for both your dad and mam.

It might be something I could try as I've been too chicken to try week long respite. Glad I came back here today - TP is full of brilliant ideas - thank you College Girl for sharing

x

 

[CollegeGirl]

Aw Eternity, that's great, I hope it works out for you. (I hope it works out for us too! It hasn't started yet!)

 

[zigandzag]

So so so pleased for you CG. U will all be in my prayers tonight. My mom got banned from ring and ride recently too! Another tale...... Really hope it all works out for u xxx