1. TinaT

    TinaT Registered User

    Sep 27, 2006
    7,095
    Bolton
    A very big hug from me too my lovely Connie. All you can work for is the same as so many of us and that is that he is kept safe, warm and as comfortable as he can be and I know you have, and always will, fight for his best interests. Love expanded into deep concern and care that he gets the best you can get him. We cannot do any more.

    Being in a similar situation myself gives me so much empathy with your thoughts.
     
  2. Mo_N

    Mo_N Registered User

    Oct 29, 2009
    1,007
    South East Essex
    Thinking of you both at this difficult time.
    Love & a comforting hug.
    Mo
    x
     
  3. sad nell

    sad nell Registered User

    Connie , sorry that Lionel is losing weight, just put my thumb and forfinger together and was shocked that that circumforenced Lionels ankle, Trev had a speight of loosing weight and looked like he had been in a concentration camp, with sunken cheeks and ribs on show, it is so hard to see our lovely men this way, I agree with you about wanting them to be comfortable and cared for without too much intervention, how are you feeling, do you have someone staying with you? The sun is shining here hope it is on you, always makes me feel happier. love to you both Pam
     
  4. larivy

    larivy Registered User

    Apr 19, 2009
    5,225
    essex
    connie thinking of you both love larivy
     
  5. Necion

    Necion Registered User

    Connie, sending caring thoughts to both Lionel and yourself.Luv
    Necion. x
     
  6. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
    59,206
    Female
    Dundee
    Adding my own thoughts for you both. xx
     
  7. Rosie

    Rosie Registered User

    Jun 10, 2004
    235
    South East Wales, UK.
    Dear Connie, thinking of you & Lionel, such an awful time for you, i hope he picks up, take care of yourself, sending you lots love & hugs xxxxxx
     
  8. Jo1958

    Jo1958 Registered User

    Mar 31, 2010
    3,724
    Yorkshire
    Connie, hello
    You and Lionel are in my thoughts, I do hope that you can both find some peace in the days to come.
    kind regards, Jo
     
  9. Nutty Nan

    Nutty Nan Registered User

    Nov 2, 2003
    785
    Buckinghamshire
    Dear Connie,
    I am so sad for you, and I totally agree: quality over quantity, Lionel needs to be kept safe, comfortable and pain-free, I am glad that you can trust the staff in his care home in that respect. I hope that you get plenty of TLC, too. I think of you both very often, and send you best wishes. Be strong!
    Love, C. x
     
  10. nellbelles

    nellbelles Volunteer Host

    Nov 6, 2008
    8,325
    leicester
    Connie

    Hope you can get comfort from the fact that the care given to Lionel is excellent.

    A ((hug)) for you both
     
  11. susiesue

    susiesue Registered User

    Mar 15, 2007
    2,607
    Herts
    Thinking of you and Lionel as always.

    As you would say 'stay strong'.

    Love
     
  12. BeckyJan

    BeckyJan Registered User

    Nov 28, 2005
    18,972
    Derbyshire
    Hello Connie:
    As always your strength and love for Lionel come through clearly in your posts. It is sad to read of his deterioration but you know how the care staff will continue to keep him comfortable.

    My heart goes out to you and I wish more could be done.
     
  13. gigi

    gigi Registered User

    Nov 16, 2007
    7,788
    East Midlands
    Dear Connie

    Thinking about you both just now.

    This must be such a difficult time for you.

    Love as always...:)

    xx
     
  14. Brucie

    Brucie Registered User

    Jan 31, 2004
    12,413
    near London
    Dearest Connie

    my thoughts and hopes are with you both.

    It is such a dreadful time, I know.

    As always you are doing the best that anyone could possibly do.

    I hope that things will improve over the time to come.

    God bless

    Bruce
    xxx
     
  15. maryw

    maryw Registered User

    Nov 16, 2008
    3,805
    Surrey
    Dear Connie

    Thinking about you and Lionel xx
     
  16. twink

    twink Registered User

    Oct 28, 2005
    265
    Cambridgeshire UK
    Just poppped in to see how you were Connie.

    Lots of love to you both xxxx
     
  17. connie

    connie Registered User

    Mar 7, 2004
    9,519
    Frinton-on-Sea
    Arranged transport to take me to see Lionel yesterday.

    Yes he still looks thin and tired, but peaceful.

    I cut his hair, and then washed it. Although he had been shaved I gave him a nice soap and water shave, much closer. Cut his fingernails etc.

    Not once did he show any sign of recognition in any way. (Sad)
    The consultant psychologist made his visit last week (about every 6/8 months) and commented that he was surprised that Lionel was still there. He praised the staff for their continued dedication to good care.

    It is all we can hope for I guess.
     
  18. Brucie

    Brucie Registered User

    Jan 31, 2004
    12,413
    near London
    Hi Connie

    nice to hear from you again!

    I thought this, frequently, with my visits to see Jan.

    I hold in my heart the fact that she was squeezing my hand the day she died. She knew I was there but could not show it in normal visits, but made the effort that last time.

    It will be the same for Lionel, believe me. He knows you are there. He is just saving his energy.

    Please take care of yourself too!

    xxx
     
  19. Rosie

    Rosie Registered User

    Jun 10, 2004
    235
    South East Wales, UK.
    Thinking of you Connie, hope you are managing to keep your chin up & are looking after yourself, love & hugs at this difficult time, Rosie xxx
     
  20. Jo1958

    Jo1958 Registered User

    Mar 31, 2010
    3,724
    Yorkshire
    #900 Jo1958, Oct 22, 2010
    Last edited: Oct 22, 2010
    Oh Connie you are wonderful,
    Your visit to Lionel must have so dramatic for you and I'm pleased to hear that you got there and were able to make sure that his care is good.
    Take care of yourself, best wishes, Jo
     

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