Update on hubby in CH

Discussion in 'I have a partner with dementia' started by pamann, Feb 5, 2016.

  1. pamann

    pamann Registered User

    Oct 28, 2013
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    My hubby has been in a CH now for 5 months. It has been a very difficult time, many ups and downs, he has escaped 3 times, jumping over a 6ft fence, bought back to the CH safely. He is now refusing all medication, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel, yesterday a carer and I took him out for a walk, he was so happy to be free, the children were coming out of school, he was so pleased to see them, daffodils were out in most of the gardens, and the sun was shining, we felt so happy, after 40mins we arrived back at the CH, hubby had no idea of where we were, we did past by his sister's home but he did not recognise it. Entering back into the CH all the staff welcomed him back, he was so happy, and so was I.
     
  2. 2jays

    2jays Registered User

    Jun 4, 2010
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    A lovely post :) so glad to read you had a good day xxxx


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  3. marionq

    marionq Registered User

    Apr 24, 2013
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    Hope this is a step on the way to better things for both of you. You have had a very hard time of it and we are with you emotionally.
     
  4. Jinx

    Jinx Registered User

    Mar 13, 2014
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    Pam, how lovely that you were able to take your husband out for a walk and get him back 'home' safe and relaxed. xxxxx


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  5. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,896
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    It sounded like a very special outing pamann.

    That your husband did not recognise his sister`s home and was so happy to be back in the care home makes me wonder if he was trying to escape from himself, rather then the home, when he climbed the wall.
     
  6. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
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    That's wonderful Pamann!
     
  7. marmarlade

    marmarlade Registered User

    Jan 26, 2015
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    my hubby has been in care for a year now and the other visit he had a yellow fluffy duck and a box of orange chocolates,none of them being his,but also had lost his glasses thats the 5th pair a pair of shoes shower gel and talc.when i went to find him he was in someones room,some times it is quite funny what arrives in his room and as i visit a lot you can see the other residents going from room to room picking up any thing that takes their fancy,just go with it it sorts itself out a carer will say thats so and so- so it goes back where it belongs but for how long is any ones guess so dont take it to heart
     
  8. Scarlett123

    Scarlett123 Registered User

    Apr 30, 2013
    3,802
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    Good to read such positive news Pam xxx
     
  9. Cat27

    Cat27 Volunteer Moderator

    Feb 27, 2015
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    I'm so pleased for you Pam xx
     
  10. Shedrech

    Shedrech Volunteer Moderator

    Dec 15, 2012
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    Yorkshire
    Hi pamann
    a good walk - children's laughter - daffodils - sunshine - and a warm welcome back
    a lovely post
    so pleased for you both
     
  11. tigerlady

    tigerlady Registered User

    Nov 29, 2015
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    So pleased for you after all you've been through. Hope its the start of many happy walks together xx
     
  12. stanleypj

    stanleypj Registered User

    Dec 8, 2011
    10,684
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    It's great to read this sort of post Pamann. Thanks so much for sharing your happiness.
     
  13. sah

    sah Registered User

    Apr 20, 2009
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    I so needed to read something like this today. Gives me something to look forward to! Long may it continue.
     
  14. pamann

    pamann Registered User

    Oct 28, 2013
    2,635
    Kent
    Hubby's walk.
    Thank you everyone for your lovely posts, today hubby was happy, friends visited him, he new who they were, the last time they visited him he did not know them, that walk did wonders, although he does not remember going out yesterday, l even managed to get him showered, which is normally a difficult task.
     
  15. jugglingmum

    jugglingmum Registered User

    Jan 5, 2014
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    So glad he's had 2 good days, spring on its way
     
  16. pamann

    pamann Registered User

    Oct 28, 2013
    2,635
    Kent
    Hello everyone, just to let you know hubby is going for walks now twice a week, hoping to go everyday when weather permits, he is so much happier now he is getting out in the fresh air, no trouble getting him back to the CH.
    Makes me feel so much better.
     
  17. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
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    That's such good news Pamann!
     
  18. LYN T

    LYN T Registered User

    Aug 30, 2012
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    Brixham Devon
    Great news Pam. It's so encouraging to read posts of people who settle well in care homes.

    Love

    Lyn T XX
     
  19. Cat27

    Cat27 Volunteer Moderator

    Feb 27, 2015
    10,349
    Merseyside
    That's great news Pam. :)
     
  20. Scarlett123

    Scarlett123 Registered User

    Apr 30, 2013
    3,802
    Essex
    Heartwarming news Pam. :) I know you were torn every which way, when you first had to consider Care Homes, and it's wonderful that hubby has settled in so well, and that you're at peace with your decision xxx
     

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