Thought I would update you, Dad pressed his safe and sound alarm on 27th Dec as he had severe pain, they called an ambulance and he was taken to A&E this was at 1am, they checked him over, noted he was jaundiced and sent him home at 4.30am. No one called me I arrived the next morning and he said he had been to hospital, I thought he was mixed up, but could clearly see he was not well so I rang hid doctors, that is when I found out he had been to hospital.
Anyhow I took him back to hospital, it was confirmed that the cancer had spread so an operation was performed to have a stent put in the bile duct, this is a palliative measure.
He came through this however he suffered the worst ever dellerium I have seen, the nurses did not have the resources to look after him so I was asked to stay overnight with him, which I did. I must add that Dad was moved to another ward and whilst very busy, the staff have been great.
I have finally got Dad the help he deserves, I have found him a home it is a few bus rides away for me but seems to be just right for Dad, they do end of life care and seen to genuinely care. Snow permitting I am taking him there today with the help of my son.
I am lying to Dad, I have told him he is going for rehabilitation as he has lost a lot of weight and needs to build himself up, the doctors are talking of a couple of month, but they don't know Dad very well
I feel mixed emotions, I'm sure somewhere in me there is relief but I have not found it yet. I feel guilty for knowing Dad is never coming out of the home, when he doesn't, but that is a blessing I guess.
It's such a shame that it is only when Dad is near the end, that he is getting the help we wanted for him 4 year ago.
Take care and thank you
Turmoil x
Anyhow I took him back to hospital, it was confirmed that the cancer had spread so an operation was performed to have a stent put in the bile duct, this is a palliative measure.
He came through this however he suffered the worst ever dellerium I have seen, the nurses did not have the resources to look after him so I was asked to stay overnight with him, which I did. I must add that Dad was moved to another ward and whilst very busy, the staff have been great.
I have finally got Dad the help he deserves, I have found him a home it is a few bus rides away for me but seems to be just right for Dad, they do end of life care and seen to genuinely care. Snow permitting I am taking him there today with the help of my son.
I am lying to Dad, I have told him he is going for rehabilitation as he has lost a lot of weight and needs to build himself up, the doctors are talking of a couple of month, but they don't know Dad very well
I feel mixed emotions, I'm sure somewhere in me there is relief but I have not found it yet. I feel guilty for knowing Dad is never coming out of the home, when he doesn't, but that is a blessing I guess.
It's such a shame that it is only when Dad is near the end, that he is getting the help we wanted for him 4 year ago.
Take care and thank you
Turmoil x