Update -mum.

[garfield3]

Hello all,

Mum survived the night. Spoke to the deputy manager today. Usual Dr came out today. Does have chest infection, lost swallow been given just in case meds via cannula. Is very poorly but different this time. Not eating or drinking. Got a temp and very restless.terminal restless? ? Still unresponsive. Sleeping a lot. What gets me is how quick it has happened. 2 weeks since she got cold. When I saw her in August she looked different. Couldn't put my finger on it.

Any ideas how long? no mottling yet.

Thanks for listening. xx

 

[Grannie G]

Any ideas how long? no mottling yet.

I don`t think anyone can tell you @garfield3/Sue. It`s just a painful waiting game.

I hope your mother is comfortable and pain free.

 

[garfield3]

I don`t think anyone can tell you @garfield3/Sue. It`s just a painful waiting game.

I hope your mother is comfortable and pain free.

Thanks for your reply. What gets to me is that she has gone downhill so fast. She had a cold a couple of weeks ago.and now at this stage. Am thinking that maybe she was /is a lot further along than I /
we first thought.

 

[Shedrech]

my thoughts are with you @garfield3
I too was surprised at how quickly dad went once the chest infection took hold, and similarly he'd had a couple of chest infections before that he bounced back from but this time was different somehow, I guess he was just exhausted ... but that's dad's experience and everyone's is so individual
sending you both a blanket of sympathy

 

[canary]

((((((((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))) @garfield3
Unfortunately there is no knowing how long. Mum went 17 days with no food or fluid, but she always was stubborn and most people do not usually go that long.
You will know when she is reaching the very end as her breathing will change with lots of gaps between breaths.
Look after yourself in the meantime - make sure you eat and sleep.

 

[garfield3]

my thoughts are with you @garfield3
I too was surprised at how quickly dad went once the chest infection took hold, and similarly he'd had a couple of chest infections before that he bounced back from but this time was different somehow, I guess he was just exhausted ... but that's dad's experience and everyone's is so individual
sending you both a blanket of sympathy

Thanks Shedrichech for your insite. Yes, a very individual journey. The waiting game now! !

 

[garfield3]

((((((((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))) @garfield3
Unfortunately there is no knowing how long. Mum went 17 days with no food or fluid, but she always was stubborn and most people do not usually go that long.
You will know when she is reaching the very end as her breathing will change with lots of gaps between breaths.
Look after yourself in the meantime - make sure you eat and sleep.

Thanks for your insight too.the circle of life goes on....

 

[Canadian Joanne]

My mother suddenly developed a fever and was gone in 9 days. No prior illnesses or anything like that so you can imagine what a state of shock we were in.

This is a hard and difficult time. I hope that your mother is kept comfortable and you take care of yourself.

 

[Mouse2014]

I am so sorry you are going through this.

My Mum had shingles and a chest infection in July, discharged from hospital to nursing home, back into hospital a Week later with dehydration and delirium, she had 2 further chest infections whilst in hospital, the consultant advised there was little more they could do given her inability to wake to eat/drink so she was discharged on 6/8/19 was told that the hypoactive delirium (sleepy/lethargic) Would make recovery difficult so decision not to readmit to hospital was taken. Mum barely ate or drank for a good 3 weeks due to her sleepiness, and in the final week she was unconscious, had pain, secretion and agitation medication via a syringe driver and she died on 3/9/19. It was nearly a month for her, bless her but everyone’s different...I m so sorry