hi all, not posted for a while, but keep in with reading posts, to keep it all real. Dad has been his home since November, no problems with any more pnuemonia, and considering he nearly died twice, his health is better physically. Mentally his dementia is worsening, predictable I know but his Va D has worsened and he has developed a "new" language. This language, apart from the moments of lucidness is totally made up and intersperses his conversation moments. He talks some sense often saying he can't remember, then finishes it off with something like "compatatakapan, compikitiki..." and so on - then he laughs says, i don't know what that means, closes his eyes and sleeps for a minute or two! It's light releif when we are there and he smiles a lot, but can't make sense of anything. When we leave he goes quiet and then shouts rambling rubbish constantly. The matron at the home called the doctor to come next week - looking at some sedation as it has transpired he shouts at night too - but is calm with company - is it just frustration? Probably! now we as a family have an added bonus to our troubles, Mum has some sort of Cancer diagnosed and has just undergone a biopsy on her liver to determine a prognosis...it never rains! My Brother, who had handled it all too well (seemingly) about Dad, has been in denial about his condition, and cannot face Dad - my brother seems to be having some sort of breakdownn over it all - I think Mum will be the last straw... sorry about the diatribe, it feels better writing it all down, and it feels more secure to be able to talk online to enable me to cope too. My immediate family is really supportive and my wife is gem, work have been good too, but business must run, and i need t work to escape from the real world, not dote all the time and mope.