Mum - in lovely care home - cardio vascular, in latter stages now, needs feeding, speech gone, a few noises, has had infection due to stage 3 pressure ulcer on her ankle, which although is beginning to heal still seeps. The infection has instigated another huge drop in the progression of the the dementia. She is now eating, but is still exhausted. I haven`t seen any progress since she began to eat again. We have a plan in place to allow slow recovery to get her up, no need for dresses etc, in chair for breakfast, then bed rest, repeated for lunch and t-time. But because of the handling involved, hoisting, putting into bed, turning her two hourly, she struggles when breathing when back in bed, the whole process of moving her in and out of bed three times a day and then turning, seems to be exhausting her. When is the right time to ask that she should stay in bed. She has a hospital bed so the back can be raised to feed her, she has a pressure mattress. I acccept now she will not return to how she was 5 weeks ago, and this is perhaps the beginning of the end, would it be more kind to keep her in bed now? Calm and comfortable. She has a gentle baby-like happy, affection demeanour, but she can communicate in her own way when she is uncomfortable or in pain, and mostly she is comfy in bed. I visit her daily and feed her her lunch, so keep a close eye on her and work well with the carers. Carers agenda is naturally to keep residents mobile and socialising as long as is possible Confused, but wanting to do the best for her. She likes people watching, so reluctant to take away her time within the lounge, as for a short while she enjoys watching what is going on, but of course she gets tired quickly and I`d rather her be comfortable in bed, than sitting awkwardly, sleeping in the upright chairs. She doesn`t like recliners, she never has, she likes her feet on the floor, but being in bed is different. Carers say sometimes she doesn`t want to get up, keep pulling the duvet back and waving them away! Like most of us the plan for the end is painfree, calm and comfortable, and we seem to be moving into the final stages now.
Would appreciate you comments
Heather xx
Would appreciate you comments
Heather xx