Mum has had mixed dementia for almost 6 years. We have been managing, just with carers 4 times a day but since a 6 week spell in hospital we have started to gently suggest maybe a care home is the right place. Mum has become vile really vile to both my sister and I. Angry, abusive, it's too awful for words.
But she has a "friend" a lady from the local church luncheon club who has taken Mum under her wing. And this week this helpful lady has helped Mum find and move into a care home for a 3 week respite visit. We only know where she is because Social Services rang to ask if we would fund it and they told us what was happening. Mum has kept it secret even from her carers who rang us in a panic and from her cleaner who visited just a few hours before she moved out.
We have tried not to exclude this lady from Mum's life but are horrified at this latest turn of events. We really don't know what to do. Has this happened to anyone else?
We are trying to be positive and are telling ourselves that at least we know that Mum will be save for the next 3 weeks, but whatever next?
But she has a "friend" a lady from the local church luncheon club who has taken Mum under her wing. And this week this helpful lady has helped Mum find and move into a care home for a 3 week respite visit. We only know where she is because Social Services rang to ask if we would fund it and they told us what was happening. Mum has kept it secret even from her carers who rang us in a panic and from her cleaner who visited just a few hours before she moved out.
We have tried not to exclude this lady from Mum's life but are horrified at this latest turn of events. We really don't know what to do. Has this happened to anyone else?
We are trying to be positive and are telling ourselves that at least we know that Mum will be save for the next 3 weeks, but whatever next?