My husband went into a care home in August and I visit him every other day and take him out for a walk. I have come to the conclusion that he is not being showered regularly, his hair is always greasy and he is not shaved properly. I also don’t think he is made to brush his teeth as he is still on same toothpaste tube he had when entering the home mid August. Yesterday his shaver was on charge and I checked if it was clean - it was full of hair and I had to run it under the tap.
I have read it is the norm for a person in a care home not to be showered daily, but perhaps once or twice a week only. However as my husband is doubly incontinent I would have thought he would be showered regularly?
I have spoken to the Manager several times and on one occasion she told me that she had got the hairdresser to wash his hair and there was no charge! I can’t see my husband letting Carers take him to a sink fully clothed and then letting a stranger wash his hair - and why the hairdresser and not a Carer washing his hair? On another occasion when I bemoaned the fact his hair was greasy the Manager said it had been washed but got greasy from Carers patting his head as they walked past him!!
I do his washing as I was not happy with the Carers doing it - they never ironed anything and his jumpers were being hung up looking like a herd of elephants had trampled over them.
Last week I spoke to the Owner about my husband’s personal hygiene and told her I was not happy with replies I get from her Manager and needed to know how often my husband was being showered and shaved as it was clear to me his hair never seems to be washed. The day I spoke to her my husband's hair was greasy, matted at the back - so it had obviously not been combed! She said she would speak to the staff. Despite seeing her in the care home a few days later she has not approached me with a reply ?. The Manager has been on leave so may respond to me today but not holding my breath.
I showered, shaved and dressed my husband every day and expected the home to do the same - perhaps I need to reduce my expectations? Wondering if others have had similar experiences and how they dealt with Care Home. I am one of those people who has mouth in gear before brain so Owner and Manager know how I feel.
Thanks for letting me vent.
I have read it is the norm for a person in a care home not to be showered daily, but perhaps once or twice a week only. However as my husband is doubly incontinent I would have thought he would be showered regularly?
I have spoken to the Manager several times and on one occasion she told me that she had got the hairdresser to wash his hair and there was no charge! I can’t see my husband letting Carers take him to a sink fully clothed and then letting a stranger wash his hair - and why the hairdresser and not a Carer washing his hair? On another occasion when I bemoaned the fact his hair was greasy the Manager said it had been washed but got greasy from Carers patting his head as they walked past him!!
I do his washing as I was not happy with the Carers doing it - they never ironed anything and his jumpers were being hung up looking like a herd of elephants had trampled over them.
Last week I spoke to the Owner about my husband’s personal hygiene and told her I was not happy with replies I get from her Manager and needed to know how often my husband was being showered and shaved as it was clear to me his hair never seems to be washed. The day I spoke to her my husband's hair was greasy, matted at the back - so it had obviously not been combed! She said she would speak to the staff. Despite seeing her in the care home a few days later she has not approached me with a reply ?. The Manager has been on leave so may respond to me today but not holding my breath.
I showered, shaved and dressed my husband every day and expected the home to do the same - perhaps I need to reduce my expectations? Wondering if others have had similar experiences and how they dealt with Care Home. I am one of those people who has mouth in gear before brain so Owner and Manager know how I feel.
Thanks for letting me vent.