My dad came to live with me a year ago. He is suffering with vascular dementia, and Altzheimers. He does not know who I am, or any of his family. But he has got to know us. But he acts as if he is in a home. Asking 'are you on tomorrow' . Tells me to lock up, and how to feed my dog, and all kinds of things. He cannot remember his address, rob or anything, and thinks he has no family. He often asks 'why do I have to stay here? When I explain that he refused any care at his own home, and stopped eating because he did not have any money, and that we are his family, he gets so upset. He thinks all the time trying to make himself better. He says he is disgusted with himself, says he does not deserve to have his dinner. He is 93 years old. Quite frankly it upsets me seeing him like this, and I feel like I am living in a care home the way he acts. The whole atmosphere is gloomy. I myself have had a lot happen in last 3 years. Marriage breakdown, redundancy, mum died, mastectomy. I cannot heal myself in this unhappy atmosphere. When do people stop trying to remember. I can't cope with it much longer. I am an only child. I lived alone , and now dad is here. Sorry but do other people have this kind of unhappy atmosphere.ni have benn for counselling regarding over use of alcohol, to enable me to even sit with him some days. My emotions are everywhere. Please can others share their experiences.