1. WIFE

    WIFE Registered User

    May 23, 2014
    856
    WEST SUSSEX
    Logical, meaningful conversation - what's that? I didn't have one of those for nearly two years with my husband but a lot of "fun" conversations about a variety of subjects that normally wouldn't have crossed my mind. Now I look back and I am able to smile when I remember how I used to scratch my brain for a reasonable answer to some of the weird imaginations posed by my man. The hard answers were to queries regarding houses, cars, old friends and parents. I wish you well.
     
  2. Scarlett123

    Scarlett123 Registered User

    Apr 30, 2013
    3,802
    Essex
    Those little sparks are worth more than the biggest shining diamond in the world, aren't they. :) How lovely that your Mum remembered the birthday of her own precious jewel.
     
  3. Caroleca

    Caroleca Registered User

    Jan 11, 2014
    331
    Ontario canada
    It really does take some practice to not ask questions. It takes time to realize that it doesn't work....but it is difficult. However, once you get the hang of it, it makes a HUGE difference to how the visit goes. Distraction gets easier once you understand why it is necessary. I always find singing or talking about moms favourite music it a great topic of conversation. I will start a song she knows and when she joins in...I say..."wow ma, you are always the best at figuring songs out". That makes her smile.

    When at fist I used to ask questions, she would turn up her brow and get anxious...you do learn ...but it may take some time...

    Carole
     
  4. sinkhole

    sinkhole Registered User

    Jan 28, 2015
    273
    I have to admit, I actually quite like talking nonsense. I often say things to people which probably come across as gibberish to them.

    To me, it's a carefully constructed obscure or surreal humorous comment on something they've said or done, but most of the time they look at me in a puzzled way.

    Now I can say the same sort of things to my aunt and she's not fazed at all. In fact, she usually agrees with me!

    If only that aspect of dementia was the worst part of it all, it might not seem such a bad disease.
     
  5. esmeralda

    esmeralda Registered User

    Nov 27, 2014
    3,072
    Devon
    Your surreal, humorous comments sound wonderful sinkhole. The posts on here show such a lot of love, patience and insight, I just find them so moving and instructive. Thanks everyone.
     
  6. sleepless

    sleepless Registered User

    Feb 19, 2010
    3,223
    Female
    The Sweet North
    My husband can chatter away for ages, none of it making any sense, and with many made-up words. I just go along with it, agreeing in the right places etc.
    But every now and then he has a really good laugh at something he's said, and I find that so wonderful that I have no trouble genuinely laughing with him -- for a few moments, seeing that lovely face light up with laughter, I have my husband back again.
     
  7. Grey Lad

    Grey Lad Registered User

    Sep 12, 2014
    5,736
    North East Lincs
    My brother has advanced Alzheimer's. Whenever any of us go to visit him he tells us he is still at work making Jaguar cars. He tells us of any trouble he has had with the workforce and how he has sorted 'that lot over there ' out. His medication seems to have stopped him pestering the females in the Home but he still walks around the corridors with Nan on a good day. I walk with her some days and listen to her conversation with fascination but she can resort to Anglo Saxon on occasions and some don't take too kindly to her choice words.
     

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