Hi, I wonder whether anyone else has experienced this, and what they did about it...
My MIL has VD and we've been through many of the ups and downs experienced by so many families on this site, at each stage doing our best to get things under control and maintain a semblance of independence for her. Today she wept when we had an update meeting with the carers and said she'd rather kill herself than have people in her home telling her what to do, but we calmed her down and she's ok again now.
However, that aside, a new problem has presented itself - and we don't know what to do.
Her next-door neighbour, who we don't know very well but seems a nice guy, called to say he had some things to share with my OH that he needed to hear. I said I could take a message and he went into lengthy detail about many visits to his home that MIL has been making - TV remotes that she had borrowed and lost - worried visits asking what to do about money / cards that had been lost - etc etc.
I got the impression he was politely asking for us to prevent this happening again - but how can we? It seems unfair for the neighbours to have this burden - but I don't know what to do about it.
If anyone has a similar story - perhaps found a way to solve or mitigate it, I would love to hear from you.
BW, Jo
My MIL has VD and we've been through many of the ups and downs experienced by so many families on this site, at each stage doing our best to get things under control and maintain a semblance of independence for her. Today she wept when we had an update meeting with the carers and said she'd rather kill herself than have people in her home telling her what to do, but we calmed her down and she's ok again now.
However, that aside, a new problem has presented itself - and we don't know what to do.
Her next-door neighbour, who we don't know very well but seems a nice guy, called to say he had some things to share with my OH that he needed to hear. I said I could take a message and he went into lengthy detail about many visits to his home that MIL has been making - TV remotes that she had borrowed and lost - worried visits asking what to do about money / cards that had been lost - etc etc.
I got the impression he was politely asking for us to prevent this happening again - but how can we? It seems unfair for the neighbours to have this burden - but I don't know what to do about it.
If anyone has a similar story - perhaps found a way to solve or mitigate it, I would love to hear from you.
BW, Jo
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