Sorry to burden you once again but..
Im finding it difficult to sleep and this website has became my off loading station...
the past few days...
Im feeling really guilty that i never went to the hospital today and am contemplating not going tomorrow either...
mum and dad said thay will try to go....ive got a meeting supposedly... (and they asked it i could be present) with social services to make "an assesment" feel like i need to take my mum and dad and not expect them to cope alone..visiting i mean, not asessement as s/s prob wont turn up.. i have read messages AGAIN - posted by others as i feel it really helps me.. but after reading them i feel so guilty for taking up space on here when there are people who are LOADS worse off than me.
Uncle Tom has been in hopital for just over 10 weeks and i have spent the best part of every day visiting... especially through the easter hols....with my kids who cheer him up no end or seem to.. (i have 5 and he loves then to death) But reoccuring chest infections - diagnosis lead to further tests which told me he had vascular dimentia - multi faract am not sure how its spelt but it sounded like that..
One prob i have is that my dad... extremly close to uncle Tom has denied this is happining he says that" he's depressed and needs in his own words "a kick up the backside" and some motivation.. I have tried - and failed to ask dad not to view his opinions so strongly on uncle tom... (this is how dad had dealt with probs in the past)..... but to no avail.....He never falters to tell him each time he visits. dad tries to go when he can but...(he is poorly himself) but has not been for a while... dont know what to expect tomorrow....
I feel, as uncle tom has been in hospital for weeks it is a relief of sorts....for me..physical etc. but mentally i feel as i have lost all "control" over what i "know" is best for him..or do i ?
i am only the person closest to him apart from my mum and dad ...(mum on same wave lenghth as me) but... Dad's opinion apparantly when at home with mum.. he to gets agressive etc...does'nt help mums care with dad.. My dad never voices these thoughts to me.. in fact he never says anything to me..
The staff have not got a clue.. no disrespect but....
they dont seem to communicate at all he has refused to eat this last few days but
one nurse out of the lot...sits with him and offers encouregement and seems to "get somewhere" unlike the others who poke their head round the door and say "do you want your tea etc.....when he replys ...no! they promptly disappear
Just realised the size of my message and the time...... sorry once again about the space i took up... will decline from posting for a few days as i feel i have nothing to contrubute to this board in means of advice and am deniying others in worse situation than me to comment
Many thanks once again...... you really do help
love Danni x
Im finding it difficult to sleep and this website has became my off loading station...
the past few days...
Im feeling really guilty that i never went to the hospital today and am contemplating not going tomorrow either...
mum and dad said thay will try to go....ive got a meeting supposedly... (and they asked it i could be present) with social services to make "an assesment" feel like i need to take my mum and dad and not expect them to cope alone..visiting i mean, not asessement as s/s prob wont turn up.. i have read messages AGAIN - posted by others as i feel it really helps me.. but after reading them i feel so guilty for taking up space on here when there are people who are LOADS worse off than me.
Uncle Tom has been in hopital for just over 10 weeks and i have spent the best part of every day visiting... especially through the easter hols....with my kids who cheer him up no end or seem to.. (i have 5 and he loves then to death) But reoccuring chest infections - diagnosis lead to further tests which told me he had vascular dimentia - multi faract am not sure how its spelt but it sounded like that..
One prob i have is that my dad... extremly close to uncle Tom has denied this is happining he says that" he's depressed and needs in his own words "a kick up the backside" and some motivation.. I have tried - and failed to ask dad not to view his opinions so strongly on uncle tom... (this is how dad had dealt with probs in the past)..... but to no avail.....He never falters to tell him each time he visits. dad tries to go when he can but...(he is poorly himself) but has not been for a while... dont know what to expect tomorrow....
I feel, as uncle tom has been in hospital for weeks it is a relief of sorts....for me..physical etc. but mentally i feel as i have lost all "control" over what i "know" is best for him..or do i ?
i am only the person closest to him apart from my mum and dad ...(mum on same wave lenghth as me) but... Dad's opinion apparantly when at home with mum.. he to gets agressive etc...does'nt help mums care with dad.. My dad never voices these thoughts to me.. in fact he never says anything to me..
The staff have not got a clue.. no disrespect but....
they dont seem to communicate at all he has refused to eat this last few days but
one nurse out of the lot...sits with him and offers encouregement and seems to "get somewhere" unlike the others who poke their head round the door and say "do you want your tea etc.....when he replys ...no! they promptly disappear
Just realised the size of my message and the time...... sorry once again about the space i took up... will decline from posting for a few days as i feel i have nothing to contrubute to this board in means of advice and am deniying others in worse situation than me to comment
Many thanks once again...... you really do help
love Danni x