Hi
As you will know from my previous posts i was feeling sorry for myself and decided to take time out....
This included trying to banish all thoughts related to uncle tom out of my mind just for a couple of days
I felt i needed to get some normality back in my life for my partner and kids
Reality hit me when i picked kids up from school and youngest one aged 7 (i have 5) informed me that he had told the teacher that i could not go to parents night as i would be visiting Uncle Tom....
Reality Check.....
I am ashamed to admit that i have not been able to stick to my descision..
I never visited Uncle Tom for 2 days but.... phoned twice each day... and he was constantly in my thoughts. I was told by staff he was fine and settled.
I couldnt rest...own peace of mind..
Decided to visit today... Took my dad with me just to give mum a couple of hours break....(dad in wheelchair)
I was greeted not by uncle tom but......a flying plastic beaker which just missed my head...and the words "im freezing why didnt you bring me a blanket" and "get out....you have signed papers to keep me in prison"
Once again i was gutted and guilt took over for a while and i thought he was punishing me for not visiting but...
Through the info and advice i have recieved on here i managed to convince myself that this was not my normal Uncle Tom talking....
I spoke to a nurse who told me that Uncle Tom had been "naughty" for the past couple of days..... he had been wandering and shouting and had even got into someone else's bed and refused to get out.
NAUGHTY.....for gods sake he is 74 years old not a baby...
I was not impressed,but was even more distraught when i turned to speak to my dad and was horrified to see that tears were pouring down his cheeks...
I have never seen my dad cry in 39 years.... reality check for dad i think...he has alway been of the opinion kick him up the backside and get something done....
He swore that there was nothing wrong with Uncle Tom only a bit of depression...
Dad was gobsmacked that Uncle Tom even raised his voice, as uncle tom was the most placid person ever.
I since found out that the doctor has declared Uncle Tom fit for discharge.. as they feel his chest infection has cleared up... i havnt yet met with s/s
To me this seems stupid as he was fine a few days ago we even had a "half" sensible conversation but he is now showing signs of chest infection reaccuring...(confusion) etc....
Im confused....im of the opinion he is "hard work" for the staff..... am i paranoid ?
Anyway they have said that Uncle Tom will be transfered to discharge ward tommorow and then to a EMI home
What is an EMI home?
Sorry to sound thick but was so stressed never asked....
It seems that this is never ending and its playing havoc with my head...
one day fine ....next day not...i really dont know what to expect when i visit.
Sorry to whinge once again but feel totally unheard - confused and gutted.
Take care Danni x
As you will know from my previous posts i was feeling sorry for myself and decided to take time out....
This included trying to banish all thoughts related to uncle tom out of my mind just for a couple of days
I felt i needed to get some normality back in my life for my partner and kids
Reality hit me when i picked kids up from school and youngest one aged 7 (i have 5) informed me that he had told the teacher that i could not go to parents night as i would be visiting Uncle Tom....
Reality Check.....
I am ashamed to admit that i have not been able to stick to my descision..
I never visited Uncle Tom for 2 days but.... phoned twice each day... and he was constantly in my thoughts. I was told by staff he was fine and settled.
I couldnt rest...own peace of mind..
Decided to visit today... Took my dad with me just to give mum a couple of hours break....(dad in wheelchair)
I was greeted not by uncle tom but......a flying plastic beaker which just missed my head...and the words "im freezing why didnt you bring me a blanket" and "get out....you have signed papers to keep me in prison"
Once again i was gutted and guilt took over for a while and i thought he was punishing me for not visiting but...
Through the info and advice i have recieved on here i managed to convince myself that this was not my normal Uncle Tom talking....
I spoke to a nurse who told me that Uncle Tom had been "naughty" for the past couple of days..... he had been wandering and shouting and had even got into someone else's bed and refused to get out.
NAUGHTY.....for gods sake he is 74 years old not a baby...
I was not impressed,but was even more distraught when i turned to speak to my dad and was horrified to see that tears were pouring down his cheeks...
I have never seen my dad cry in 39 years.... reality check for dad i think...he has alway been of the opinion kick him up the backside and get something done....
He swore that there was nothing wrong with Uncle Tom only a bit of depression...
Dad was gobsmacked that Uncle Tom even raised his voice, as uncle tom was the most placid person ever.
I since found out that the doctor has declared Uncle Tom fit for discharge.. as they feel his chest infection has cleared up... i havnt yet met with s/s
To me this seems stupid as he was fine a few days ago we even had a "half" sensible conversation but he is now showing signs of chest infection reaccuring...(confusion) etc....
Im confused....im of the opinion he is "hard work" for the staff..... am i paranoid ?
Anyway they have said that Uncle Tom will be transfered to discharge ward tommorow and then to a EMI home
What is an EMI home?
Sorry to sound thick but was so stressed never asked....
It seems that this is never ending and its playing havoc with my head...
one day fine ....next day not...i really dont know what to expect when i visit.
Sorry to whinge once again but feel totally unheard - confused and gutted.
Take care Danni x